12 Probable Reasons Why Is She Ignoring You And What To Do

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Certain awkward situations can evoke various questions in a couple’s minds. One such question is – Why is she ignoring me? Some women can be unpredictable. They might give you loving eyes one moment and then glare at you with annoyance the next. However, the behavioral change is not intentional; there is likely a reason behind the change.

Suppose your partner ignores you and doesn’t explain why; you will need to figure it out and make apologies. Read this post to learn about various causes of being ignored and what you can do to rectify such situations.

“Why Is She Ignoring Me?” 12 Possible Reasons

Several reasons could make a woman choose to ignore their partner. Have a look at the most common reasons, and determine what might apply to your situation.

1. She is tired of waiting for you to make the first move

You chat with her all the time, even late at night, because you like her. However, you are too nervous to ask her out. If she likes you, she will be patient, but if you show no signs of asking her out, she will reduce the frequency of contact with you because she sees no point in waiting for you to make a move.

2. You give her mixed signals

When your behavior with her is not consistent, she might feel confused. For instance, you show a clear interest in her, but when she starts flirting back, you become mellow with her. She might think she got you wrong and that you are not genuinely interested. She might stop any contact with you.

3. She is not interested in you

Perhaps she was being polite when she started talking to you as a friend or a colleague. You probably took that as a sign of interest and got too involved. She could be ignoring you to make her disinterest evident and avoid giving you any wrong signals.

4. You are acting too needy

A few weeks of chatting and interacting, and you are now dependent on her for your happiness. You need her love, attention, and time. Your over-dependent and needy nature must have put her off, and now, she prefers to maintain distance from you.

5. She needs more time to think about the relationship

If she started ignoring you after you suggested making your relationship official, you probably asked too soon. She may like you but not enough to commit to you just yet. You might want to give her some time and not push her to do something she is not ready for yet.

6. She is bored

When you got together, there was that initial rush and excitement that kept her coming back to you. But once that faded, she probably started getting bored with you. She now feels there is nothing more you can add to her life and no excitement left.

7. She is too busy managing her responsibilities

She is busy juggling her responsibilities at home and work and has no time to interact with you. She could also be dealing with a crisis and wants some space before she feels better and can have good conversations again.

8. You made her angry

Did you have a fight or argument with her? Or did you say or do something that probably hurt her? When hurt, some women shut down, and you will receive the silent treatment until you figure out what went wrong and apologize.

9. She is probably seeing someone else

Is she often online but never replies to you? If so, there is a possibility that she has started seeing someone else. Perhaps she has met someone more interesting and prefers talking to them instead of you.

10. You make her feel insecure

If she is seeking security in your relationship, and you haven’t been providing it terribly well, she might be distancing you and waiting for your assurance. She needs to hear about your feelings for her.

11. She no longer has feelings for you

Perhaps she has fallen out of love with you. She did like you at one point in time but does not feel the same for you anymore. She doesn’t know how to convey the change in her feelings and keeps her distance hoping you will get the message.

12. She is playing games

Some women love to have men running after them. They enjoy the chase and attention. By ignoring you, she is trying to confuse you, so you would seek her out to know why she isn’t talking like before. She likes some drama in her life, and ignoring you gets her that.

What To Do When She Ignores You?

You can never truly guess what’s on her mind unless she tells it to you herself. However, you can certainly do something about the situation and try to fix things between you. Here are a few dos and don’ts that you should keep in mind.

1. Do not pester her to talk to you

If you want her back, never make the mistake of chasing her or pestering her to talk to you. It makes you look needy and desperate, which will send some women running in the opposite direction. Be calm and wait until she comes to you on her own.

2. Avoid double texting

Her responses may have been few and curt lately, but the one time when her reply is elaborate and quick, do not jump the gun and send her long texts out of excitement. Hold on and wait until things feel normal to start behaving like before.

3. Give her some time and space

She could be contemplating her relationship with you or dealing with a temporary problem. Regardless, you should give her the time and space she needs to clear her head and talk to you like before.

4. Be patient with her

Her sudden behavior change might hurt you, and you might want to vent it out by being rude and hurtful to her. Stop! This will cause irreparable damage, and you might regret it later. Instead, be more understanding of her so she can come back to you.

5. Avoid apologizing

In a desperate attempt to make things normal between you two, you might feel like apologizing to her even without knowing what you did wrong. Do not lose your self-respect to win over a woman. If you realize you did something wrong, apologize without wasting any time, but don’t do it just to make peace with her.

6. Be your usual self

No doubt, you must be extremely hurt by her behavior, but why sulk? If you happen to cross paths, act normal. Do not let her see how much she affects you. Let her know that you have a life of your own and can be happy in life without her.

7. Do not start flirting with other women

You might feel tempted to flirt with other women only to have her attention and make her feel jealous. But remember that even if it works, and she does come back to you, there is no guarantee it will last, and she might ghost you the next time.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How to attract a girl who ignores you?

She might be ignoring you because you were not visible in her eyes. So try making a big move and get her to notice you. If she constantly ignores you, she might be overwhelmed by your advances, and the best thing you can do to attract her is to give her space to reflect on your connection.

2. How long will a girl ignore you?

From hours to days to forever, it may depend on why she ignores you. She might be genuinely busy or not interested in you. However, don’t panic and bombard her with messages that will only push her away from you. Give her space, and she will reach out to you if she has feelings for you.

The above reasons are a few answers to the throbbing question, “why is she ignoring me?” If you’re bothered by her avoiding you, you could try to find out why. If she feels comfortable, she will tell you about it. If you haven’t heard back, the best thing you can do is accept her decision and go on with your life. Allow her space and divert your attention away from her by focusing on something else. Keep yourself busy, and eventually, you’ll start to move on.

Key Pointers

  • If a girl is not interested in going out with you anymore, she may express it through some gestures.
  • You taking too much time to make the first move or giving mixed signals might be a couple of reasons she lost interest.
  • Giving her some space and not pestering her by double texting could help you deal with this situation.
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Ratika Pai

Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more

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