12 Probable Reasons Why Is She Ignoring You And What To Do

12 Probable Reasons Why Is She Ignoring You And What To Do

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Some women can be extremely unpredictable. One moment, they give you the heart eyes, and the next moment, they stare daggers at you. It is not that they do it for no reason. There is always a reason behind their change of behavior. You may not be aware of it, and they would like you to figure it out on your own.

If your girl ignores you, there is undoubtedly a reason behind it, and if she does not tell you why, it is up to you to find out and make amends. Whenever you find yourself wondering, “Why is she ignoring me?” refer to this post to know the possible reasons and learn what you can do to set things right.

“Why Is She Ignoring Me?” 12 Possible Reasons

Several reasons could make a woman choose to ignore someone. Have a look at the most common reasons, and try to figure out if any of these applies to your situation.

1. She is tired of waiting for you to make the first move

You chat with her all the time, even late at night, because you like her. However, you are too nervous to ask her out. If she likes you, she will be patient, but if you show no signs of asking her out, she will reduce the frequency of contact with you because she sees no point in waiting for you to make a move.

2. You give her mixed signals

When your behavior with her is not consistent, she might feel confused. For instance, you show a clear interest in her, but when she starts flirting back, you go mellow on her. She might think she got you wrong and that you are not genuinely interested. She might back off and cut off contact with you.

3. She is not interested in you

Perhaps she was being polite when she started talking to you as a friend or a colleague. You probably took that as a sign of interest and got too involved. She could be ignoring you to make her disinterest evident and avoid giving you any wrong signals.

4. You are acting too needy

A few weeks of chatting and interacting, and you are now dependent on her for your happiness. You need her love, attention, and time. Your over-dependent and needy nature must have put her off, and now, she prefers to maintain distance from you.

5. She needs more time to think about the relationship

If she started ignoring you after you suggested making your relationship official, you probably asked too soon. She may like you but not enough to commit to you. You might want to give her some time and not push her to do something she is not ready for yet.

6. She is bored

When you got together, there was that initial rush and excitement that kept her coming back to you. But once that faded, she probably started getting bored with you. She now feels there is nothing more you can add to her life and no excitement left.

7. She is too busy managing her responsibilities

She is busy juggling her responsibilities at home and work and has no time to interact with you. Or she could be dealing with a crisis and wants some space before she can become normal to talk to you.

8. You made her angry

Did you have a fight or argument with her? Or did you say or do something that probably hurt her? When hurt, some women prefer giving the silent treatment until you figure out the wrong you did and apologize.

9. She is probably seeing someone else

Is she often online but never replies to you? If yes, there are chances she seeing someone else. Perhaps she has met someone more interesting and prefers talking to them instead of you.

10. You make her feel insecure

If she is seeking security in your relationship, and you deny her that, she might act distant so you could pull up your socks. She simply wants assurance of your feelings for her.

11. She no longer has feelings for you

Perhaps she has fallen out of love with you. She did like you at one point in time but does not feel the same for you anymore. She doesn’t know how to convey the change in her feelings and keeps her distance hoping you will get the message.

12. She is playing games

Some women love to have men running after them. They enjoy the chase and attention. By ignoring you, she is trying to confuse you, so you would seek her out to know why she isn’t talking like before. She likes some drama in her life, and ignoring you gets her that.

What To Do When She Ignores You?

You can never truly guess what’s on her mind unless she tells it to you herself. However, you can certainly do something about the situation and try to fix things between you. Here are a few dos and don’ts that you should keep in mind.

1. Do not pester her to talk to you

If you want her back, never make the mistake of chasing her or pestering her to talk to you. It makes you look needy and desperate, which will send her running in the opposite direction. Be calm and wait until she comes to you on her own.

2. Avoid double texting

Her responses may have been few and curt lately, but the one time when her reply is elaborate and quick, do not jump the gun and send her long texts out of excitement. Hold on and wait until things feel normal to start behaving like before.

3. Give her some time and space

She could be contemplating her relationship with you or dealing with a temporary problem. Regardless, you should give her the time and space she needs to clear her head and talk to you like before.

4. Be patient with her

Her sudden behavior change might hurt you, and you might want to vent it out by being rude and hurtful to her. Stop! This will cause irreparable damage, and you might regret it later. Instead, be more understanding of her so she can come back to you.

5. Avoid apologizing

In a desperate attempt to make things normal between you two, you might feel like apologizing to her even without knowing what you did wrong. Do not lose your self-respect to win over a woman. If you realize you did something wrong, apologize without wasting any time, but don’t do it just to make peace with her.

6. Be your usual self

No doubt, you must be extremely hurt by her behavior, but why sulk? If you happen to cross paths, act normal. Do not let her see how much she affects you. Let her know that you have a life of your own and can be happy in life without her.

7. Do not start flirting with other women

You might feel tempted to flirt with other women only to have her attention and make her feel jealous. But remember that even if it works, and she does come back to you, there is no guarantee it will last, and she might ghost you the next time.

It is natural to feel frustrated and angry when someone ignores you. The solution to this is to go on with life normally and not worry much about it. When you show her that you are a secure person, she might regret her action and get back to being normal with you. However, if she does not, don’t lose heart. You were probably reading too much into it, and it is best you too start maintaining your distance from her.

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Ratika Pai

Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more