Why My Unexpected Pregnancy Was An Important Phase In My Life

Unexpected pregnancies are quite the common phenomena whether you want a baby or not. Some women may not want a child at all, or some women do want one, but at a later stage in life. Here’s a story about a young woman who found out she was pregnant after a random one night stand. It was unexpected and she was definitely not ready for a baby. We’re sure many of you are on the same boat as this woman, and many of you might just be curious. So, if you want to know what happened and how the mom-to-be dealt with the surprising news, keep reading!

Before we get into the details of the woman being pregnant and finally giving birth, let’s first get to know her a little bit; who she is, what she does, and what her dreams are.

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An Independent Woman

A freelance writer living in Europe was on a night out with her closest friends where the topic of pregnancy came up. Being a 31 year old woman living on her own, far away from home, calls for strong independence. She planned to “spend 12 months researching a novel idea, learning to surf, and having as many no-strings-attached flings as possible” before shifting her base to New York to figure out where her life would take her. The woman was travelling the world as a bohemian writer and had future plans to travel in Europe. For example, she stated, “I’d already spent a few months riding the waves in Costa Rica, backpacked through the Balkans, and finally gotten some work done in Dublin. Now I had plans to tour more of Europe.” However, she was feeling tired and nauseous amongst other things. After googling her symptoms and a confirmation from her friend’s mom, she realised she was pregnant.

She did want to be a mom, but not in that point of life where she didn’t have the necessary finances and didn’t have a serious relationship. Both of which were on her to do list for becoming a parent. Choosing to keep the baby (she had an abortion once for heartbreaking personal reasons), she moved back to New York, found a family-friendly apartment, and networked around to find job for a steady income.

After travelling to Miami for a “babymoon organized by a few close friends” and a last minute business lunch, she realised that this would be her last time travelling alone and the last time where business would come first. She calls herself “fiercely independent” and she wonders who she would be with “a permanent plus one.” A lot of women may relate to this, so don’t judge: when her water broke she felt a little annoyed because it meant she couldn’t finish her working week. So much so that she tried to finish an article deadline! However, the doctor told her there was a labour complication, which required a C-section.

A Changed Woman

She gave birth to a little girl who she absolutely adores, who laughs all the time, and mommy can’t help but watch her sleep in spite of the hectic to do list. She managed to fit in her work in between nap times and she made plans with her friends (prenatal yoga women) and their babies for lunch. Who would’ve thought she’d be so social? She clearly didn’t! The only downfall, in her opinion, was that she missed the last minute crazy travel plans, or about her friends’ crazy party stories. That being said, she tried to focus on her current situation and how her daughter, Lucy, needs her more than anything.

So her aim for Lucy is to make her understand that it’s okay to miss an old life while loving the new one at the same time. It doesn’t make you good or bad, it just makes you human.

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