Will He Come Back? 14 Signs To Know & What To Do If He Does

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You and your boyfriend have parted ways for some reason, despite having shared a beautiful history and relationship together. And now you’re lying on your bed, thinking to yourself, “Will he come back?”. We wish it was easy to find out, but it isn’t. And that’s what makes you perplexed, frustrated, and emotionally drained. Of course, an answer to all the questions about him still having feelings for you or moving on exists. All you need to do is to look for the right cues. Here’s a bunch of cues we’ve curated to find out if he’s still into you.

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14 Signs To Know If He Will Come Back

It can be emotionally draining to find an answer to the question, “Will he come back?” However, these cues can help you.

1. He tries to talk to you

You have erased his phone number on your phone and blocked him on all social media platforms. Even then, he tries his best to connect with you. He might seek help from his friends to connect with you to arrive in your life again.

If you do not follow the “no-contact rule,” you may find his texts and excuses a chance to engage with you. All these are positive signs that he may want to get back to you.

Kelsey L.O., a writer from Texas, recalls how shocked she was when her ex-boyfriend reached out to her after six solid months. She says, “A few months after my devastating breakup, I decided that I needed to go completely no-contact with my ex-partner in an effort to heal and move on. At first, I was tempted by this notion (a means of getting him back) but realized that no-contact had to be for me and me only.”

Adding that she went through a nasty illness and received his message when she was just getting back into the stride, she further says, “He wanted to reach out to me to tell me he had heard of my recent achievements and wanted to congratulate me, that he was proud of me and wishing me well. I thanked him for his kind words and wished him well (i).”

2. He wants to be friends with you

He wants to be friends with you

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Usually, people do not wish to be friends once they have broken up. But if your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends with you, it shows he might still be harboring feelings for you. However, keep in mind that these feelings most likely come from seeing you as a good and kind person and thinking you can be a wonderful friend. It is not usually a romantic return to you. Take time to consider if that can work for you.

3. He tries to know if you are dating

He tries to gather information about your love life from your friends or through your social media posts. If you are still in touch with each other, he may text and ask you about it. It reflects his interest in revisiting your life.

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If you are in two minds about giving him a second chance, seek your close ones’ or counselor’s support. They can give an objective assessment.

4. He follows your social media presence

We all check on our ex’s social media profiles secretly. But if he still likes your posts and comments to engage in an online conversation with you, it shows he wants to know about your whereabouts and could be planning to reappear in your life.

5. He checks on you regularly

When your ex checks on you regularly, will he come back?

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If you are still in contact and he keeps checking on you regularly, it indicates he still cares for you and has been thinking about you. He may ask you how your day was or about work regularly. This could be a clear sign that he wants to retrieve the old relationship.

6. He mentions that he misses you

Does he admit that he misses you and reminds you of the days when you were together? It is an obvious sign that he fancies a comeback. The negative emotions he felt might have subsided with time, and the good old memories might be making him feel lonely. So, he might be checking if you feel the same. Don’t jump to conclusions and take your time to respond. Loneliness is never a good reason to reunite with him or return to the relationship.

7. He makes plans with you

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Does he try to meet you or ask you out for a movie or a game? It shows he hasn’t been able to let go of you and wants to rekindle the relationship.

8. He calls you by old nicknames

Does he use old nicknames to refer to you and whisper sweet nothings like he used to? He might be missing the old days and testing the waters before making a move to re-enter your life.

9. He stays in touch with your family and friends

When in a relationship, people hang out with each other’s family and friends, but they stop after the breakup. If your ex still spends time with your family and friends, it hints that he wants to keep the connection between you two alive. He may ask them about you or share things with them so that they reach you.

10. He isn’t dating anyone

If significant time has passed since you both have stopped seeing each other, there are chances that he has moved on. However, if you come to know that your ex is not seeing anyone, it could be because he is not over you yet and may want you back in his life.

11. He surprises you

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Your ex may try to impress you by sending you flowers, and gifts, or even paying you a surprise visit. Notice that he is trying to get your attention, which may suggest his desire to rekindle the romance and reemerge in your life.

12. He remembers things about you

You posted about an event you are gearing up for, and find his best wishes texts on the day of the event. He shows interest in you by remembering details about your life. It reflects that he is not over you yet and is trying to be in your good graces.

13. He shows concern

Does he ask you about your health? Does he ask you questions about your solo trip? It indicates that he still cares for you and wants to see you safe and sound.

14. He posts old memories on social media

He posts old memories on social media

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You shared inside jokes, songs, or poetry when you were together. Now, you find your ex sharing them on social media and tagging you. Perhaps he rediscovered his long-lost love for you, is reminiscing about the chemistry you shared, and eyeing a possible comeback.

What To Do If He Comes Back?

You have been waiting for him to come back, and when he does, you may get confused and experience an overflow of emotions. At this juncture, it can be challenging to figure out the right moves.

In such a situation, it is essential to stay calm and not react emotionally. You have to pause, take a step back, and think about what happened. Also, ask yourself what your heart yearns for.

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If you broke up on account of physical or emotional abuse, don’t even entertain the thought of getting back with him.

Post-breakup, if you felt no connection between you two and the relationship is not worth the effort, let him know you have moved on. Don’t let your vulnerable state welcome someone who doesn’t deserve you. On the other hand, if you have feelings for him and you sense his genuine emotions, think about giving a second chance to your relationship.

However, before getting back, share each other’s expectations and set up boundaries based on your past difficulties. Instead of blame games, a healthy discussion can lay a strong foundation for a long-lasting relationship. Each of you writes down all your important thoughts about coming back together and discussing.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How long does it take for a man to miss you?

It depends on several factors, such as the seriousness and longevity of the relationship and the bond you both share. Men are different, so how they react to situations will also differ. Hence, he may start missing you in a few weeks or months, or it may never happen.

2. How often do dumpers come back?

While whether a person wants to get back together or resume the relationship after parting ways depends upon various factors, a study conducted among college students found that 65% of couples got back together after breaking up (1).

3. Will a man come back after no contact?

Whether or not a man will come back after a period of no contact depends on various factors, including the nature of the relationship, the reason for the break in contact, and the individuals involved. If the man has chosen to initiate no contact, it could indicate a desire for space, reflection, or a potential end to the relationship.

4. How do I stop hoping for him to come back?

Letting go of hope and moving on from a past relationship can be a challenging and emotional process. It’s important to recognize and accept your emotions.Take time to reflect on the reasons why the relationship ended or why it may not be healthy for you to continue hoping for a reconciliation.Engage in activities that bring you joy, explore new hobbies, spend time with loved ones, and prioritize your well-being.

Walking away from a relationship is a tough decision to make. However, your breakup may be followed by a phase where you wonder whether he will come back to you. If you look for the correct signs, you may be able to answer this question. For example, if he tries to maintain or restore contact after the breakup, checks up on you regularly, and shows concern for you, he may be interested in coming back. However, you should assess the reasons for the breakup and make the right decision when he tries to patch up. Then, if you are sure he is worth it, you could give him another chance.

Infographic: Why Your Ex May Come Back To You?

The post-breakup period can be tough, filled with uncertainty, not knowing if this is the end or if there is still hope. Your ex may wish to come back for different reasons, either out of love or personal gain. So if they are displaying signs of patching up, this infographic can help you understand why and clear your doubts.

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Key Pointers

  • Even after parting ways, your boyfriend may show some signs of rekindling the romance.
  • Showing interest in your dating life or calling you by your nickname are some signs he is missing you
  • His actions may leave you at crossroads. So taking your time before making a decision could be helpful.
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