When it comes to parenting, we, as mothers, sometimes take up a larger share of responsibilities, thinking that our husbands would probably know less about it. However, a downside of this is that we end up working ourselves to the point of exhaustion while the men manage to get away with a limited amount of time that they devote to looking after the kids. Here’s the thing, parenting is a full-time job. But as moms, we deserve a break every once in a while.
When we multitask and take up most of the responsibilities at home, our husbands end up becoming too dependent on us to be taking care of everything. And so when you want to take that day off occasionally, it is not unusual to hear the men worrying about how they’re going to manage without you being around. While it sounds quite sweet to hear one’s partner say that they can’t do without you, this is not exactly what you would like to hear when you need some time away from household responsibilities.
We Are Also To Be Partially Blamed
While this may sound a bit rude, it needs to be said. The reason why your significant other doesn’t seem to share enough responsibilities at home also has to do with you. A lot of my friends, who are also mothers, often feel frustrated about how their partners are not helping out enough at home or that it just doesn’t occur to them to assist with small things. I realized that we as moms are also partly responsible for this as we don’t allow or even push our significant others to have an equal share of household duties.
It’s Okay To Divide Parenting Duties With Your Partner
Let me ask you this question — if you ever need a few minutes for yourself, are you able to take this time without worrying about how things are going to be managed in your house? Of course, as mothers, we are used to managing a large amount of work at once. But we need to keep in mind that our spouses are capable of looking after the house too. If you’re one of those moms, who struggles with giving away parenting duties to your partner without being concerned, here are some suggestions:
- Begin This Process Gradually
When it comes to sharing responsibilities at home, It’s never too late for dads to help out. You might feel like your husband requires equal supervision as your kids, but trust me, your spouses certainly should and can help out. Allow them to be responsible for looking after the kids every once in a while. This can be a great way to slowly ease them into the process.
- Have Faith That Things Will Work Out
I know it’s only natural to worry about how things will work out without you around. But just relax and leave instructions if that is needed. But try and distance yourself for some time. The most important thing is to trust the process.
- Once You Make Up Your Mind, You Can Do It
When you’re a mother to an infant, it can be really difficult to take time off from looking after your kid, especially when you know that they are so small and need a lot of care and attention. But while this is true, you also need to have some time for self-care. So just take a day off, go out for a walk, get yourself a nice cup of tea and relax. Let the husband take care of your child for some time without feeling guilty. Consider this time off for rejuvenating yourself so that you can go back to being a super mom once more.
- Try And Achieve A Balance When It Comes To Parenting
There will also be aspects of parenting that you’re good at and still others when your partner may be the go-to person for your children. Try and identify these qualities and play to your strengths. And most importantly, if you allow yourself to trust your partner when it comes to taking care of the children, you will be able to give time to yourself with a more peaceful mind.
Even though, as mothers, we devote a large portion of our day to looking after the kids and managing our home, we should also sit back and take some time to ourselves. If it means that dads have to step up a little, there’s nothing wrong with that. Once you figure out how to share parenting responsibilities without putting too much pressure on merely one parent, you will be able to take a break without feeling burdened.