Parenthood is a rollercoaster — there are ups, downs, and a lot of fun and chaos in between. The journey to parenthood is a strange one, and when you become a parent, you have to be prepared for everything that comes with it. That dream life you pictured with your partner is different. You now have an additional member in your life, and you have to make decisions based on what’s best for all of you. No matter how well prepared you were to have a baby, when your little bundle of joy arrives, your life changes drastically (and forever).
After welcoming your child into this world, every day has been about the child in some way or not. This can be overwhelming but at the same time you know well enough that you won’t trade it for anything else. So without further ado, let’s look at ten unexpected ways your life takes a three-sixty after you embrace parenthood:
1. Your Name Changes
No, we don’t mean literally. But all your life, you were known by your first name. Some of your friends and family members probably had sweet (or embarrassing) nicknames for you. But after becoming a parent, your name changes. You now respond to “mom” or “dad”, and that’s your title for the rest of your life.
And being called “mom” or “dad” can have such a powerful impact in one’s life. You realize that your life is not only about yourself but also about your family and kids. The sense of parental responsibility will make you proud with that title.
2. Your Relationship With Your Partner Changes
You might be the most romantic couple ever, but once a baby comes into your life, all that changes. No, we don’t mean that there’s no romance left anymore. But you’ll have much less time to get intimate with your partner. Date nights, romantic walks, late-night drives, and other such couple activities become a luxury you can’t always afford.
3. You Take Help From Your Parents
If you’re lucky enough to have parents who live in the same city as you, count your blessings. When you become first-time parents, you’re most likely to take all the help you can get from your own parents. You’ll seek their wisdom, advice, and experience to help raise your baby.
4. You Learn To Be Patient
Knowingly or unknowingly, kids will test your patience a lot. If you’re a person who loses their patience easily, fret not. Parents are magically blessed with immense patience, and you’ll automatically develop this virtue once you have a baby.
5. Your Routine Circles Around Your Baby
Whether you are a homemaker, entrepreneur, or work a regular nine to five job, your entire routine shifts when you become a parent. Your days are scheduled around the needs of your child. You push your workout time to pick up your little one from daycare. Or you sacrifice some alone time to help your kid with their homework. Your baby becomes the center of your planning schedule, and it will be that way for a while, at least until they grow up and can take care of themselves.
6. You Have To Sacrifice Your “Me-Time”
Parenthood is full of sacrifices — that’s a known fact. For someone who loves to spend some quality time alone, be sure that parenting will cut into that time. There might be days or even weeks where you fail to set some time aside for only yourself. But remember to dedicate time because it’s a form of self-care, and it’s vital for your well-being.
7. You Begin To Be Financially Responsible
If you weren’t thinking about your spending habits before, you would definitely have to start once you have kids. Your financial planning has to be top-notch because now you’re not just saving for your retirement but also for your kids’ education and future. It would help to hire a financial planner who can guide you through how to allocate your money.
8. Your Vacation Destinations Change
There probably was a time when you took a spur of the moment decision to go on a nice little beach vacation. Or you just outstayed your vacation since it was a carefree life. Once you become a parent, your trip planning becomes more about your kids than about you. Is it kid-friendly? How much will they really enjoy it? Are they going to learn something new? These are questions that you’ll have to ask yourself before choosing a vacation destination with your kids.
9. You’ll Spend More Time Outdoors
In an attempt to encourage your kids to play outdoors, you will do it too! Taking your kids to the park, aquarium, playground, or beach is a great time for you to reconnect with nature too. When was the last time you sat down in a park and enjoyed the sound of the chirping birds? With kids, you start doing this so often! So next time your kid asks you to come along to play outside, go get some fresh air and workout done, it will benefit you immensely.
10. You’ll Be Fascinated By The Littlest Of Things
Your kid laughed today? They took their first step? They sang a song? We bet these things make your day! They are huge milestones for parents and will put you on cloud nine. The excitement and joy you feel when your kid does something for the first time (no matter how small it may seem) are hard to explain because it leaves you feeling euphoric! Even their small feats will bring you a certain pride which only parents can understand.
There’s a lot that changes when you embrace parenthood, but in the end, your kid makes it worth it. Every sleepless night and exhausted day becomes a happy and willing sacrifice for you because you have your kids around. So yes, life takes several unexpected turns after you become a parent, but in the end, you cannot imagine your life without your children. How did your life change after having kids? Comment below and share your stories with us!