Does your child say that he has the best mom and dad ever? Does that make you wonder if he is being true? We all try to be kind to our kids, but then the general bearings of life can sometimes sap us off so much energy that we might overlook moments when our kids need more of us. But, how do we spot those times? How do we show our kindness in hours when they need us the most? Let’s look at the ‘how’ below. Here is our compilation of 11 ways to being kind to children:
1. Being A Good Listener:
Often as adults with a hundred things running through our minds, we fail to listen to what our young ones have to tell us. By listening, we mean listen and not simply hear. Typically, our kids throw us a thousand questions, tell us their versions of stories, and complain about schoolmates or siblings. If you just end up nodding through all of it, then it’s probably time to rethink your parenting strategy.
What is worse if you find the constant chatter erratic! Monologues are only as good as talking to walls. So don’t be the wall that your child merely uses to draw pictures or have his cute pin-ups on.
As a mom, there is nothing more satisfying than having a seemingly meaningless conversation with your little chatterbox! The more you listen to him, the more you engage him in a conversation. The more you engage him in conversation; well you see where this is going. A dialogue is necessary for your child to grow and develop.
2. Be The Super Motivator:
It’s natural for children to be lazy and play around instead of going steady with their homework. Even if you do get them to sit at their study table, more often than not, you’ll find them twirling the pencil aimlessly or flopping around with the stationery.
Don’t ask them to merely do their homework. Say, “Hey, let us do homework together!” Make it sound like a fun spree. And lure them with some incentives, like desserts or goodies (keep them ready, kids don’t entertain false promises ). Sit with them until they finish their homework. Answer their questions, and help them with any doubts or questions. Towards the end, tell them how brilliant they have been, and how well they accomplished their job. It will motivate them to do their homework with more interest and within the given timescale.
You could be the super motivator mom when it comes to their activities as well. The idea is to put them on their toes and turn them into enthusiastic and smart children. Cast aside pending tasks and chores from office and remember to enjoy your time with them.
3. Make Them Feel Special:
Always tell your kids how unique they are. Appreciate the good things in them. Use the aspect to overcome their negative side. For instance, if you have a sobby child who has his cheeks wet all the time, then tell him or her that when he smiles he looks as beautiful as a sunflower. To be immune to their sobs does no good either to them or you. Nor should you vex yourself at the nagging. Merely telling him to stop will not suffice. So, take him to a sunflower garden and convince him that he has a face more beautiful than a sunflower! Talking about their good qualities will help him lift his spirits and boost his morale. But just be a little careful lest they turn into irrevocable narcissists ;)
4. Don’t Take His Cookies:
Never take a chance with his cookies – that is to say even if he offers you some of his own accord :p He is just polite because you taught him something called generosity. But he is way too small to understand the joy of giving (parting with possession). Make sure his jar of goodies doesn’t get mixed up with yours. If you are looking for something to snack on, make sure your snack corner is separate from his snack corner in the kitchen.
5. Be A Choosy Shopper For Your Child:
When you take your child for shopping, don’t get him just anything. We know that being a doting parent; you’d want to get the best for him. But, explain to him that you are choosy for him and fishing for what looks best on him. Should he persist on buying something, go ahead with his choice. Shopping with him will be a fun experience.
6. Letting Go:
Let go off the offences. Your little one is worth more than making him feel guilty. A pinch of conscience does that for him. His heart is too small to carry a burden of remorse. Help him turn over a new leaf, and show them how to avoid their mistakes.
7. Always Be By Their Side:
Tell them how much you love them. Your kids must look up to you as a figure, who they can confess to and one who is reliable. They must know that in confiding to you their thoughts, actions and the events that happen in their lives, they are in safe hands and hopefully have some kind words and advice coming their way.
8. Physical Touch And Attention:
Most children need to feel the warmth of your physical touch. A hug, caressing, being together in proximity with your child, understanding each other even through silence are signs of a bond well formed.
9. Pinning Up Kind Words:
Use surprise greeting cards or pin up few kind words about your kid on his study table or his bed stand. Convey your unconditional love and support to him. Also tell him how wonderful a person he is. Kind words are great moral boosters.
10. Nursing In Hour Of Sickness:
There is nothing like the healing touch of a mother. It is what a child needs the most when he is sick. To know how concerned you are about your child matters to him the most. Your kind touch and nursing are sure to stimulate him towards a quick recovery.
11. Giggle And Tickle:
Having fun times with your child is essential for his emotional well-being. Ensure that you have quiet times together. Tickle him, and giggle with him. He will love to see what a fun-loving mom you are!
Don’t give yourself a chance to regret being inattentive to your children. Do you feel you give them enough time? Were there any times when you felt you should have given them more of your time? Tell us about your story below.