Women Reveal The Worst And Best Things Said To Them After A Miscarriage

Women Reveal The Worst And Best Things Said To Them After A Miscarriage

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Every parent would agree that having a child is one of the best things to ever happen in their lives. Now, imagine losing your little one even before you get to hold them in your arms. It’s devastating, and it leaves you feeling broken. There’s nothing more crushing than losing an unborn child, and any couple who has been through a miscarriage will probably agree. Parents who have lost an unborn child often take a long time to move on from their loss. The grief stays with you for days, weeks, months, and even years sometimes.

When you’ve been through something so traumatic, sometimes there’s nothing a person can say or do to make you feel better. But some words might give you a glimmer of hope when your world seems to be filled with darkness, while some others just make you feel worse. We bring to you women who reveal some of the best and worst things that were said to them after a miscarriage:

  • “At Least, You Were Not That Far Along”
“At Least, You Were Not That Far Along”

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Whether you lost your baby at three weeks, three months, or three years, the pain is unbearable. Don’t let anyone disregard your pain and suffering by telling you that you were “not that far along”. Does that make your loss less significant? Absolutely not! Therefore, ignore these people. Better yet, stay away from them. You don’t need them in your life.

  • “Be Thankful That You Were Able To Get Pregnant”
“Be Thankful That You Were Able To Get Pregnant”

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Couples who have problems conceiving have it hard, and we understand that. It’s heartbreaking to have fertility issues and can take a toll on your confidence and self-worth. However, that’s no excuse to demean someone else’s suffering. Sure, you might be well-intentioned, but your approach is the worst (sorry, not sorry).

  • “You Didn’t Have To Get To Know Her And Then Lose Her”
“You Didn’t Have To Get To Know Her And Then Lose Her”

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The minute you hear you’re pregnant, you are hopeful and eager to meet your little one. You already love them and cannot wait to meet them. You cannot wait to hold them in your arms and shower them with kisses. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t get to meet your baby. You still know your unborn child, and losing them is heartbreaking.

  • “It’s Not Your Fault”
“It’s Not Your Fault”

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You’re probably beating yourself up for losing your child (even though it’s not your fault). You might be guilt-ridden and blaming yourself for the loss already. At a time like that, hearing these four words might be just what you need. It might help you heal from the loss and take the first step towards acceptance of what happened.

  • “Your Baby Will Always Be With You”
“Your Baby Will Always Be With You”

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Saying something along these lines might just be what a grieving parent needs to hear. You miss your baby and are mourning their loss. But knowing that they’ll always be there with you is something that gives you comfort and assurance.

  • “All She Ever Knew Was The Love And Warmth Of Being In Your Belly”
“All She Ever Knew Was The Love And Warmth Of Being In Your Belly”

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How beautiful is it to remind a lamenting mother that her baby was loved? Your baby might not have been out in the world, but they knew what love was because that’s what you gave them, even before they saw the light outside. It’s truly a wonderful thing to say to a mother who cannot overcome her unborn baby’s loss. Remind her that she kept her baby warm, safe, and happy in her belly.

  • “You Can Always Try Again”
“You Can Always Try Again”

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Do you think a mother does not know this? Of course, she knows that she can try again, but that doesn’t make her loss any less painful. Sure, you might be trying to give her some hope, but to her, it might seem like her loss is invalid.

Losing a baby is traumatic and excruciatingly painful. You might be at a loss for words when you come across someone who has been through such a loss. But we urge you to be more aware of what you’re saying to them. If you don’t know what to say, just hug them and express your heartfelt condolences but try not to make the situation worse. Have you ever encountered a grieving parent who lost their unborn child? How did you handle the situation? Comment below and let us know!

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