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We live in a society that has an opinion about every action or decision made by a woman. Women are always judged for what they do. Or told what to do and what not to. It is quite rare to see women go about their lives without listening to some form of judgment, and we are getting tired of it. From being told how to dress, sit, walk, laugh, and talk, it is infuriating that we are expected to behave in a certain way just to fit into certain norms laid out by regressive schools of thought.
Women have landed on the moon, fought wars, become leaders of countries, and conquered global pandemics (Jacinda Arden, we are talking to you!), but we still face the brunt of misogyny and chauvinism. We might have fought a few battles in the patriarchal world we live in and won, but we are yet to win the whole war against living in a man’s world. Every time we think we’ve made some progress, society shows us why it’s not enough and why we need to keep fighting the right cause.
Most of us are worried about changing the world, but we fail to realize that we need to start in our homes, among our family and friends. Recently, a new mother who had delivered a baby by c-section learned that she had to get a new set of friends. Why? Because they believed that she did not have a “real” delivery. They thought that a c-section delivery does not mean that she actually gave birth, and only a normal delivery through the birth canal warrants for a “real” delivery.
Ignorance Or Stupidity?
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The couple had a baby recently and decided to host a small get-together with their close friends. They invited some of them over and were hoping to have a good time. But little did they know, it would turn out to be a night of realizations that they need new friends. It started when one of her husband’s friends, whom she cannot stand, asked her if she got a birth certificate for her son. She was confused with the question and said that she did. The ignorant friend expressed how she should not have gotten a birth certificate because she did not give birth to her son but was “extracted from her like a tumor”.
She was appalled to hear what he said. But the man’s wife and some of their other friends giggled at his insensitive comment, leaving her frustrated and angry. She was furious to learn that people believed something like this. More so, these were the people she called her friends. However, the mother kept calm and said that she believed she gave birth to her son, and it counted despite what people thought.
Support From Strangers
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When people on the internet read this story, they were irritated and annoyed. Not only did they voice their frustrations, but also rendered a lot of support for this new mother. Several people said that they should cut off these people from their lives like the tumor they are. Others pointed out that her husband should have stood up for her and said something to protect his family. But the real question is, how can a man have an opinion about something he has no clue about?
Sometimes, the ones we depend on the most tend to be the most insensitive while strangers show us more empathy. Women on the internet praised the mom for her strength. One internet user also shared her experience post the c-section surgery. She said that she lost a lot of blood and had a bit of PTSD after the incident and knows how much of a struggle it is. Remember, ladies, whether you had a normal delivery or a c-section, you brought a life into this world, one that you carried for nine months! No one has the right to take that away from you, no matter how stupid or ignorant!
