As you move further along your pregnancy, you will gradually get in the preparation and planning mode. You may take steps to set up a nursery for your little one or discuss the D-Day preparations. But, have you ever sat down to prepare your relationship with your partner for when the baby arrives?
Bringing a new person into the world can be life-changing for even the best and strongest of couples. Of course, your life will now be taking a new course altogether. And, it will be absolutely wonderful for most parts. But, there are certain obstacles that you’ll come across too and it’s quite crucial to prepare for that.
There are several things that you need to take time out for and discuss with your partner before your precious little angel makes his/her grand entrance. With all these conversations out in open, both of you together will become stronger and much more ready to handle all obstacles. Here, we bring you some of these discussion topics and some associated questions to get the conversation kick-started:
When it comes to babies, one of the first milestones that both of you reach is obviously childbirth. So, it seems like the most practical place to start. So, try to get on the same page about different aspects of labor and delivery. This will also strengthen your trust in one another throughout the entire process. Naturally, the roles will be pretty much set for the both of you with respect to childbirth (since only you can bring your tiny person into the world). But, having open conversations about the same will help your partner understand and support you better. Here are some questions that you can ask each other:
- What is our birth plan? Do you want anything else? Can we find a middle ground?
- What are our strength and weakness going to be with respect to delivery?
- What makes you nervous? And, what is it that you are confident about?
- What about the visitors post the childbirth?
- Are we going to be active on social media about this moment?
With respect to parenting choices and how to raise your child, there are several things where your opinions may differ. After all, both of you come from different schools of thought. By putting out all these conversations at the forefront, you’ll avoid making any last-minute hasty decisions. You can have a proper discussion on everything and instead make a decision after giving it proper thought. Here are some of the questions for the same:
- What are your thoughts on breastfeeding?
- What is your take on bottle-feeding and pacifiers?
- What opinions do you have for your little one’s sleeping space? How much do both of you agree on “sleep training” methods?
- How do both of you feel about the ever-increasing screen time in the young generation?
- What are the family values that are important to both of you?
It won’t be a surprise that the family’s spending and finances change drastically as soon as the baby arrives. And, then there are also chances of unpaid maternity leave that both of you will have to account for. Financial arguments can also play a role in disintegrating a relationship, so it’s important to have an honest discussion about it. Here are some questions that you can consider asking each other:
- How does the company’s maternity leave policy look like?
- How will the expenses change with the arrival of the little one?
- What is surely going to be an addition to the list of expenses?
- Are there any unexpected expenses that both of you can think of?
Here, we brought a range of themes that you and your husband can have a discussion on to prepare your relationship for the “big” change. But, since each relationship is unique, try to have conversations about things pertinent to you both too. Good luck!