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I was terrified when I found out that I was pregnant. It was unexpected and took my partner and me by surprise. But after spending a little time with each other and discussing what our future would look like, we made our peace with our pregnancy news. Our parents were delighted, but we took some time to get there. Finally, a few months later, we were on board and super excited to embrace parenthood! It was a feeling like no other, and even though we weren’t ready initially, we were all set to take on this crazy ride!
During one of our regular checkups, the doctor told us, “both heartbeats sound good,” and my husband and I were surprised. We looked confused, so the doctor informed us that we were having twins. TWINS! We weren’t ready for one baby, and now we were going to have two! You can imagine my fear and anxiety, but weirdly, there was also a sense of great thrill.
As the due day got closer, I couldn’t help but be delighted that I’ll have two little ones in my arms. The day finally arrived, and I was blessed with two twin boys! They were as cute as a button, and I couldn’t ever imagine not pouring out my heart full of love for them.
But as days went by, things started getting very hard. It is challenging being a parent as it is but now, with two newborns to take care of, every day felt like a struggle. I spent several days crying and asking myself if I could take care of my precious babies. After a few weeks of struggle and crying, I learned how to handle my babies well. The process seemed to become less of a battle, and I started enjoying my routine more.
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If you’re reading this because you find it difficult to handle twins, I’m here to share a few hacks that I learned along the way. The first and foremost thing that really helped was syncing both my babies’ feeding and sleeping schedules. I prepped their meals before time and got other household chores done way ahead of time. As a result, I didn’t waste a lot of time preparing meals or making their bed when it was time for them to eat or sleep.
Creating a routine helped regulate my twins’ time and bring them in sync. I saved a lot of time by doing this. When they were asleep, I would pump milk, sterilize the feeding bottle and prepare nutritious meals (once they started solid foods). After feeding time, my husband would carry them and make sure they burped while I made their bed. We would then take turns to put the twins to sleep until they finally do.
Playtime, bath time, and even oil massage time were synced. My husband and I took turns and helped each other out in every way that we could. Eventually, it became a lot easier to handle two babies. Trust me, if I could get the hang of it, anyone can! It’s simple. But you need patience and dedication.
My husband and I would lose our cool. Sometimes we would take out our frustration at each other, but we knew it was because we needed a break. And yes, take a break — it’s vital! Set some time aside (maybe when your twins are asleep) to catch up on your favorite things. Spend some quality time with your partner or even enjoy some quiet alone time. Taking some time apart from your babies doesn’t make you a bad mother — it only makes you more caring, loving, and patient! Most importantly, remember that you are doing the best you can, so don’t forget to give yourself credit where it’s due. You got this, dear moms!
