Relationship Advice: THIS Is How You Can Prevent Your Expectations From Affecting Your Relationship

Every time we start dating or get committed to someone, we carry a list of expectations in our heads. And there’s nothing wrong with that because we all seek something or the other from a relationship. You might want an adventurous guy, your friend might be looking for someone who can make her laugh, while your sister might like her man to be a bit mysterious and broody. These are certain qualities or traits that we look for in a partner, but this list doesn’t end here. Sometimes our expectations can be too high and we prefer to keep them within ourselves without revealing it to anyone. But have you ever wondered if the same expectations are taking a toll on your love life? Our expectations can be unrealistic or so deep-rooted in our minds that it has the potential to damage our current and future relationships. Because every time our expectations are not met, we may slowly start to resent our partners or end up feeling hurt. Which is why it is important to keep our expectations in check. In this post, we have rounded up 6 things that you can do to prevent your expectations from ruining your relationship.

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1. Realize Your Self-Worth

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Relationships can make us so dependent on our partners that we forget how to be on our own. Instead of putting so much pressure on your partner, make space for yourself to grow and be independent. This way you won’t have to co constantly rely on your partner to meet your needs.

2. Talk It Out

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Rather than hoping for them to figure everything out on their own, communicate with your partner when your expectations aren’t being met. Talk to them and tell them how you feel and help them understand why you feel that way. You will feel much more relief once you open up to your partner and learn to communicate with each other when something is bothering you.

3. Everybody Makes Mistakes

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We are going to let you in on a secret—your partner isn’t perfect. Just like you, they are bound to make a few mistakes along the way. By putting him/her on a pedestal, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. And even when you do end up feeling hurt, learn to forgive them and move on.

4. Room For Acceptance

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As Bob Marley rightly said, “Truth is everybody is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” There are going to be times when you feel angry, upset, and disappointed in your significant other. And if you let it, these feelings may cause you to resent your partner and destroy your relationship. But if you find that these are things that you can let go, then learn to lower your expectations and be more accepting of them.

5. Let Go

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Learning to let go of your unrealistic expectations will bring more happiness into your life. You will learn to appreciate your partner for who they are instead of what you want them to be. It will help you build a stronger relationship and realize that it’s okay to not be perfect.

6. Focus On The Good

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Your partner may have a few flaws, just as you do. Learn to accept them and focus on the good things rather than holding on to the bad ones.

No matter how perfect a relationship may seem on the outside, it takes a lot of effort, acceptance, and love to make it work. Whenever you feel upset or hurt, remind yourself of all the things that made you fall for them in the first place. Unless your partner has a trait that is a total deal-breaker, the best thing you can do is to simply lower your expectations and be more accepting.

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