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If you’re in a long term relationship, there comes a time when you suddenly start to lose interest in your partner. You feel bored, restless, and start to wonder if your husband is the one for you. Most couples get this uneasy feeling when they’ve been together for 7 years, commonly known as the 7-year-itch. However, this crappy feeling can set in sooner or later in any relationship. If you’re worried if your relationship has fallen into a rut, think of it as a wake-up call. Continue reading our post as we list the 5 things that will help you reignite the spark and beat the 7-year itch in your relationship:
1. Know That It’s Totally Normal
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First off, realize that it’s completely normal to feel this way. You are not the first person to feel this way and you won’t be the last. Most couples in a long-term-relationship fall into a slump where they feel slightly dissatisfied in their relationship. Once you realize that it’s totally normal, you will feel more at ease and will be able to think of ways to make it more exciting.
2. Intercourse Won’t Be The Same
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The intimacy you have with your partner at the start of a relationship or when you were in your 20’s will probably change after a while. You may still get to enjoy some wild nights, but you may no longer be doing it on the floor, kitchen counters, and on top of the washing machine. And that’s okay. It doesn’t always have to be hot and heavy. As you grow older, your body and libido change, and this in turn will affect the intercourse with your partner. However, you can still find ways to make things more exciting in bed by engaging in foreplay or fulfilling each other’s fantasies.
3. Change Your Idea About Love
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You realize that your idea of love is never constant. The perception about love constantly changes for all of us from high school and college to when you’re in your early ’20s and late ’30s. Unlike fairy tales where you get your happily ever after, in real life, you have to constantly work on your relationship. It’s all about putting in the effort and getting through the rocky patches with your partner on your side. The honeymoon phase of a relationship fades after a while. Instead of desperately clinging to your idea of romance and relationship, try to build a stronger friendship with your partner.
4. Work On Yourself
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We are quick to blame our partner when our relationship gets boring or upsetting. But instead of changing your partner, the best thing you can do is work on yourself. Cultivate new hobbies, make new friends, follow your passion, read interesting books, do what makes you happy. Once you learn to be happy with yourself, it will help open new perceptions about your relationship and your partner.
5. Do Things Together
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Experience life together. If you have kids, plan a vacation at least once every year to allow yourself some couple time without your kids. A kids-free vacation will not only give you a break from parenting duties, but it will also be a great bonding experience for both you and your partner. And if you can’t afford a vacation, make it a point to do something together, just the two of you. It could be going for a morning run, renting a bike and going for cycling, or picking a hobby that you both enjoy. Instead of spending time watching TV at night, you could do something that requires participation and attention, such as playing board games.
Whether you are going through a 3-year glitch or a 7-year itch, try and remember what made you fall in love with your partner in the first place. Think of the qualities you admired in him. Have open and honest communication with your partner and learn to forgive each other.
How do you keep the spark alive in your relationship? Comment below and let us know.
