The year 2020 has been challenging for all of us. We were hit with a global pandemic that no one expected, which brought the whole world to a halt. It was a good break for Mother Earth. She got some rest from the disastrous activities of human beings. Pollution levels dropped, water levels increased, flora and fauna became abundant, and global warming slowed down. Due to government-imposed lockdowns all across the globe, people had no choice but to stay indoors. Some of them were close to family, and others were far far away from them. With very limited interaction with the outside world and lack of things, people and situations to run away from, people were forced to face truths; about themselves, their friends, families, and their spouses.
Every day couples had a break from spending time with each other. They would carry on with their careers, friends, and other commitments outside the home and come back to a safe space. It was easy to forgive and ignore faults, shortcomings, and arguments before the pandemic struck. But with lockdowns, couples were faced with harsh realities that they could not escape from. Issues that were ignored, suppressed, or just turned a blind eye to boiled to the surface during the lockdown, which put an immense amount of pressure and stress on marriages. So, here are 5 issues that made marriage difficult for couples:
1. Unresolved Dormant Issues
Many couples do not realize that their lives revolve around daily activities. Work, bills, social gatherings, family functions, children, and the list goes on. These things keep them busy, making it easy to ignore issues that they have been having for a while. Most couples get so caught up in their day-to-day lives that they forget about their marriage. With the lockdown and time thrown at them, they have to come face-to-face with reality and cannot run away anymore. Unresolved issues that have been swept under the rug may come up because they have to face each other every minute of every day.
2. Lack Of Unique Experiences
Human beings are creatures of adventure. We tend to get bored with a monotonous routine. Vacations, weekend getaways, and staycations exist because we like to shake up our daily routine and experience new things. With relationships, unique and new experiences that you share with your partner keeps the spark alive. With the way things are due to the pandemic, couples do not have the chance to create new experiences and share them. It tends to make the relationship stale, dull, and dead.
3. Increased Stress Levels
It is no doubt that the pandemic has added an element of excess stress in everyone’s life. But before COVID-19, you had a way to blow off some steam. With lockdown, quarantine, and social distancing being the new norm, it is impossible to find a way to destress. Finding a proper outlet to let out your stress is crucial for a happy marriage. The weight of too much pressure has made marriages crumble and difficult to come back up.
4. The New Normal Is Difficult To Follow
Humans are creatures of habit, and we have built our daily routine over years of social conditioning and molding. With the new ways of life becoming normal, couples find it hard to adjust to it. Kids are always with them, and they have to cater to their needs. If they live in joint families, they are constantly hearing the bickering of their in-laws and have no outlet for it. All this adds to the stress of marriages among couples.
5. Pressure From Extended Families
Speaking of joint families, extended families can add to your stress. It doesn’t have to be your partner who is creating stressful situations for you and your family. Their brothers or sisters tend to cause havoc sometimes. Families tend to ignore social distancing norms and organize parties and get – togethers, which you will be forced to attend. This creates unnecessary tension between you and your partner, especially if you are close to your family.
All relationships take a lot of work. It doesn’t come easy. But with understanding, emotional support, awareness, respect, and healthy and open communication, they can work. Misunderstandings and fights are common in a marriage, but it’s a two-way street to work past it. Do you agree? Comment below and let us know.