Words can hurt. They can cut deep and leave a wound that lasts for a long time. On the other hand, words can have a good impact too and can turn that frown upside down. They can be used to charm, console, mediate, and a whole lot of such positive effects.
And when it comes to kids, those effects get amplified a hundred times. Kids are still growing, and when someone says something rude or mean to them, more often than not, they take it to heart. So, when you’re around children, be cautious of what you say. Here is a list of 8 magical lines (not necessarily in the same order) which every child expects to hear:
1. I Love You
First of all, who doesn’t like to be told that they’re loved, generally? Secondly, who doesn’t really love their kids? You should be telling your kids every day how much you care about them. Saying “I Love You” before dropping them off at school or before bedtime is probably ideal. It’s going to stay on their mind for some time and likely to put a smile on their face.
2. What’s On Your Mind?
It’s no child’s play (pun intended) to understand the way children think, which could be quite baffling for an adult. You’ll never know what’s running through their minds. And subsequent thoughts don’t even have to be related. So, the only simple way to truly know what they’re thinking of is to just ask. It’s important to build a rapport with your child early on so that you can be the one they come to first with anything important.
3. I Know You Can Do It!
Showing confidence in your little one could just be that wind that their sails need to move at the right speed. Try to get them out of their comfort zone and use this phrase to eliminate any fears they might have.
4. I’m Sorry
Apologising to your child shows that they deserve respect too. There are a lot of cultures where the elders are shown great respect whereas the younger ones are just told what to do. This doesn’t seem to be very progressive, does it? Saying sorry to your kids also shows your humility and these aspects can be the foundation for a healthy relationship.
5. Be Responsible
Teaching kids about accountability at an early age means that it becomes second nature to them when they grow up. You have to tell them that there are consequences to their actions and it’s up to them to sort everything out.
6. I Forgive You
It is said that you can take away a baby’s toys but not your love. This, in essence, translates to being able to punish a child without showing a lack of love. Sure, you’ve got all the right to be mad at them for their misadventures, but you’re still their mother and they’re still your children. So no matter what they do, eventually, do tell them that they’ve been forgiven, but not before politely making them realize their mistake.
7. I’m Proud Of You
Kids need to know that their parents are watching. And when they’re aware of being watched, they aim to impress. Earning their parents’ attention and approval is really important to children because they wish to make their parents proud. So, perhaps you should tell them that every time they make such honest efforts. It will make a world of difference to their self-esteem.
8. It’s Fine, Just Give It Another Try!
You need to make your child understand that failure isn’t the end of the world. We’ve all faced failures at some point in our lives, but the important thing (hopefully) is that we haven’t given up. Tell them to keep trying until they succeed.
There may be many other inspiring expressions your child could do with. So better look out for more. However, these eight should come in handy, especially in those formative years. They can be a great boost to your children’s well being, self-esteem, and in general, shape their opinion about themselves.