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Being a mother takes a lot out of you. Right from when you conceive and your pregnancy to after your delivery, and even when you have to raise your baby, it’s no walk in the park. It’s a significant change, and you have to be prepared for it. Your life changes drastically — your long nights of doing the deed changes into long sleepless nights of taking care of your little one. Your romantic dates change into regular visits to the doctor, and your life revolves around your little one. Through all this, you are bound to get tired and need help. You are bound to seek support from others because it really does take a village to raise a kid.
However, not everyone has that privilege. While some people might have the blessing of in-laws, parents, friends, and other family members stepping in to help out, others have to do it all on their own. So how do moms who don’t have any support raise their babies?
The Right Village
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Imagine coming home from the hospital and having only your partner by your side. You two are the only ones who are around to get things done. Right from changing your baby’s dirty diapers to taking the night shifts, there is no one else who can pitch in and make things easier for you. There are tons of mothers out there who have no village. They have no support system and have to go days without getting some shut-eye. It is a challenging time, and you might feel like you want to cry. But we are here to tell you that you’re not completely alone.
Many moms, just like you, don’t have a strong support system. They are not surrounded by people who are one call away who will listen to them vent about their new life. So don’t worry; you are not the only one who is in this predicament. As much as you envy those moms who have a whole village to help them raise their kids, you should be proud of yourself for doing the best you can. Believe that you are because you are!
Lessons For A Lifetime
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It has probably been six months since you’ve spent some alone time with only you and your partner. Maybe you are craving some alone time, or you haven’t had a non-baby conversation ever since your little one was born. You’re probably frustrated and are looking forward to some help, but when you’re used to taking care of your baby without any help, there are some valuable lessons you learn. Here are some of them:
- You Are Stronger Than You Think
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You know that you wish to call someone over to watch your baby while you take a shower but have no one. Don’t worry; every time you feel that way and move on from it, you’re stronger than you think.
- You Feel Left Out
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You are probably the first person in your friends’ group to have a baby, so none of your friends can relate to you. It’s normal to feel left out and find no one to relate to you.
- You Miss Going Out
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Weekend getaways, staycations, and any other quick trips to blow off steam are never going to be the same. You have a baby to take care of everywhere you go, and nothing is going to feel like a vacation to you anymore.
Having a baby teaches you a lot of things. It’s not just one or two things that you learn but a whole lot of lessons that you cherish for the rest of your life, especially when you are all alone and have to raise a baby. No matter how much people say they get it, you know they don’t. Because it does take a village to raise a baby, and you don’t have one. Did you have a strong support system during the first few years of your baby’s life? Share your story with us in the comments below!
