All parents are concerned about the wellbeing of their children. Be it physical, mental or emotional, we want our kids to be happy, healthy and successful. As a result, most parents tend to push into their children’s lives and involve themselves in a multitude of different tasks. However, it isn’t really necessary for parents to oversee everything. As important as it is to be present as a parent, it is also important to give your child the space and environment to grow and learn by themselves. So being the controlling, hawkeyed parent that everyone in society reveres isn’t the best course of action for your kids. There are several other inaccurate myths like these when it comes to raising kids. Let’s take a look at what they are and what the truth of the matter is.
1. Sugar Will Make Your Kids Hyper And Restless
Your child may be going crazy but it’s not because of the sugar. Believe it or not, kids don’t become uncontrollable just because of candy. Even though most parents will swear up and down that it’s the chocolates and the ice creams that make their children active, this just isn’t true. This buzz filled misconception stems from the fact that we assume that increased levels of blood sugar give us higher levels of energy. But our bodies just don’t work that way. Moreover, studies have been conducted to prove that sugar intake has no effect on a child’s behavior (1). There can be a long list of other factors that may influence your child’s hyperactivity and restlessness, like sleep.
2. You Can’t Do Anything About The Terrible Twos
The terrible twos stem from the general rapid changes in mood and behavior most 2 year olds have. Parents usually find it impossible to control or handle these changes. And keeping up with them is a full time job. However, it is important to keep in mind that these developments are absolutely normal. And parents just need to stock up on some patience. Just because your child has decided to turn into a mini hulk every now and again doesn’t mean they cannot be reasoned with at all. Try to find ways to cooperate with your child or redirect their attention to a game or anything else they might take an interest in. It may seem like your little one just won’t listen, but there are ways in which you can get them to play by your rules. Remember to think smart and be creative!
3. Saying “No” To Kids Will Make Them Feel Criticized
No, just no! This one is a complete myth. Telling your kids “no” is perfectly okay! In fact, as long as you don’t sound aggressive or forceful, your child may feel safer if they have some limitations and boundaries. And as a parent, your job is to set those boundaries and make sure that they are not crossed without consequences. Saying no can also teach your kids a variety of different skills, and no, we don’t mean lying.
To ensure that saying no has a healthy outcome, you must remember that the circumstance is much more important than just saying the word. For example, if your child is misbehaving at a party, it is okay to tell them “no” and to drag them outside so that they can calm down and address their feelings in socially acceptable ways. But when they do, it is your duty to explain to them why they must not behave badly instead of just saying their behavior is unacceptable.
4. Your Kid’s Need Always Has To Come First
How many times have you heard this one? We’re not telling you it’s okay to neglect the needs of your kids but parents, it’s time to put yourselves first. You need to be physically, mentally and emotionally stable and healthy in order to take care of your draining kids, so prioritize yourself. Sometimes, taking a day to yourself instead of ushering the kids from one extra curricular class to another is just what you need to get back on track. The kids can entertain themselves for one day. It’s okay to take it easy and think about your own needs!
Raining children is the hardest job on the planet and it never stops. Your kids need you to guide, nurture and support them which can add a lot of pressure and stress onto parents. Always wanting to get it right can be exhausting, especially if you are operating based on certain assumptions or myths that are not accurate. Not everything that was passed down to us is true or applicable to your children. After all, they have their own challenges and problems. So, it’s time to stop giving into these beliefs in order to parent to the best of your abilities. Happy parenting!