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It’s high time that we as a society give due credit to mothers, irrespective of whether they are a stay-at-home mom or working mom. The debate of SAHM Vs working mothers seems to be never-ending, with many claiming that one is better than the other. While it is easy to pass judgments and comments for any of us, only a mother would be able to truly understand and describe how much hard work and effort goes into each. Recently, a mother from Minnesota came clean about how hard it is to be a stay-at-home mom.
Bridgette Ann came to this powerful realization after being with her kids all day every day. The mother posted a teary-eyed photo along with a long caption explaining why it isn’t easy and breaking all the assumptions people have of SAHM.
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In her post, she talks about how people consider stay-at-home moms to be lucky as they don’t have to go to work. Some people even label them as lazy while others are of the opinion that being a full-time mum isn’t real work and they’ve got nothing to complain about. But that’s far from the truth. Bridgette reveals that being a full-time mum can get overwhelming and lonely.
It’s hard to get 10 minutes to yourself to do anything on your own. This means you can’t enjoy a book, have your morning cup of tea or coffee, and even go to the bathroom by yourself. She further continues, “…hell you can’t even scrub the shit out of pants for the 3rd time in a day without someone crying or screaming at your leg.”
If you thought that you would be able to squeeze in some me-time when they are asleep, you are wrong. You would have to do the laundry, wash the dishes, and clean the bathroom. The Minnesota mom says how constantly having to entertain your little ones can be tiresome, especially when you have to do it 12 hours a day.
She continues, “ You wear the same clothes that smell like sweat and tears for days at a time because it’s already stained and no use in ruining more clothes.”
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Being a stay-at-home mother can also lead to losing your identity when you are constantly being addressed as “mum” by everyone in your house. Your entire life now revolves around fulfilling the duties and responsibilities of a mother.
Bridgette says how stay-at-home moms may get jealous of working mothers as they crave and miss having a proper adult conversation without any interruptions. She continues by explaining how SAHM are used to having meltdowns and lock themselves in the bathroom to have a second for themselves.
She ends her post by saying that crying and being frustrated in peace are considered as a luxury when it comes to the life of a stay-at-home mum. They are not even given a safe space to break down and be open about how they feel as people will be quick to comment on what they have to cry about when they get to be at home all day.
Bridgette admits that even she has once judged full-time mothers, but her perception has definitely changed after being one herself. She has nobody to help her with any of it and the feeling of being a failure starts to sink in. She further states that neither she nor her house is clean and she has already screamed and cried today and feels guilty that her child witnessed her emotional breakdown.
Her post garnered mixed reactions and comments with many people relating to how hard it can be to do it alone while others commenting that the post is an over-exaggeration and misrepresentation of the life of a stay-at-home mother.
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