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Being a mother is prioritizing your baby’s needs before yours; at least, that is what we grew up believing in. Of course, your little lump needs you the most when they are just born, but as time passes, they are more and more independent and can take care of themselves with little help from you. But the notion that a mother has to put herself second still persists, often creating a problem for moms. We can understand giving up on the last slice of pizza or not watching your favorite movie, but there are more considerable sacrifices expected of a mom, like giving up on your doctor’s appointment or sacrificing your social life for your child. Overcoming the barrier often leaves you with the guilt of being a bad mother, but this is something we need to change. Here in this article, we have discussed the situations and places where you must keep yourself first, without guilt. Read on!
1. Emotional And Mental Wellness
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Taking time out for yourself to meditate or rest is very essential. It is especially vital to set an example for your children that taking care of their mental health is necessary. Care for your well-being by engaging in meditation, deep breathing, getting plenty of sleep, eating right, and exercising. You can start this by taking walks and sharing your feelings as a family.
2. Self-Care
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Finding time to pamper yourself as a mom might be difficult, but it is crucial. Taking time for yourself is always recommended. Relaxation may come in many forms, from a long nap to a day at the spa, a good book, or even watching your favorite series.
3. Maintaining Relationships
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Amidst our hectic schedules, it’s easy to neglect our life’s critical connections, whether romantic, familial, or casual. Since we spend so much time caring for our children, we need to make time for friendships too. If you can, make an effort to connect with friends and family, even if it’s just for a few hours or through the phone.
Now that being said, here are a few things you need to accept and normalize as a mother:
1. Do Not Refuse Assistance
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You might be a super mom who can work and manage a household with a baby, but if you feel like it’s taking a toll on your mental health, you need to stop right away. Doing things on your own can save you time and effort. However, you should recognize that you have limitations and that seeking assistance does not reflect weakness. Eventually, everyone will require assistance. Unfortunately, when someone offers to assist, we often refuse because we fear they will not complete the work exactly as we would. As moms, this can lead to feelings of isolation, exhaustion, and helplessness. Instead, we need to loosen our grip and accept assistance from others around us.
2. Leave Your Social Media Accounts Alone For A While
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We can all agree that social media is a great way to keep in touch with friends and family, and have fun. But if we’re not careful, it may seriously compromise our health. The trouble with relying only on selected information is that it might lead you to doubt the quality of your own life. The dirty dishes, untidy kitchen, and raccoon eyes accompanying a late-night feeding are not often displayed on social media. When you constantly compare your life to everyone else’s highlight reel, you will have more negative thoughts about yourself.
3. Put An End To Negative Interactions
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We all know someone who is always taking advantage of us or constantly criticizing or demeaning us. We put up with as much as possible, but it becomes increasingly absurd to do so as we age. Even as mothers, you will have ten people who will try to tell you you are wrong when you are trying your best to do things right. So, instead of pleasing negative people, learn to shut them out. Just because you now have a baby does not make you venerable. On the contrary, you are now stronger, so more power to you!
No one said motherhood was easy, but it is definitely rewarding. Just because you love your little one with all your heart does not mean you have to curb your love for yourself. Also, doing something for yourself does not make you an evil or selfish mother. So, what do you think is the best way to spread awareness about mothers’ self-care? Let us know in the comments section!
