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Parenting is no easy feat. It doesn’t come with a rulebook because there is no one-size-fits-all! When you embrace parenthood, you sign up for a lifetime of commitment, dedication, and responsibility. There are no two ways about it! Most parents learn on the go and make mistakes along the way too. While that’s normal and doesn’t make you bad parents, it’s also quite scary because the cost of some mistakes can be immense. You can make mistakes that have grave consequences and make it hard to undo, especially when it concerns your child and you. What are we talking about? Well, today, we are here to discuss seven parenting behaviors that might push your kids away! So, without further ado, let’s look at these things that parents do unintentionally that can strain your relationship with your kids:
1. You Let Your Mood Take Over
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Children are bound to pick up on their parents’ moods. So, be mindful of how you tackle your emotions around them. When you’re not in the right frame of mind, let your kids know that you need some time to feel better. It’s okay to do that — it’s actually healthy! Don’t hide your emotions from them because children can be quite sensitive to their environment. So, they’ll sense when something is wrong. Instead, recoup and talk to them when you’re in a better headspace.
2. You Multitask When They Are Telling You Something Important
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Children do not share too much (most of the time), so you have to make it a point to actually listen to them when they do. When they share something important with you, and you’re preoccupied with other work, it might make them feel like you don’t care. They might even stop telling you things because they feel like it’s not important to you. The last thing you want is for your kid to feel this way!
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If you notice that your kid is in an off mood, ask them what’s wrong. But if they do not wish to tell you about it, avoid annoying them by probing and asking them on and on about what’s bothering them. It’ll only drive them further away! Give them space and let them know that you’re there for them — don’t ask intrusive questions, instead, wait it out, and they’ll come to you when they are ready!
4. You Don’t Take Their Problems Seriously
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Sure, your problems might seem more complex when compared to your child’s issues. But when they come to you with an issue, don’t dismiss them by demeaning their feelings. Their problems might seem silly to you, but to them, they are very real! Your kids are probably stressed about it, and they might be hurting. So, be empathetic towards them and comfort them so they feel safer with you!
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Many parents think it’s not a big deal to tell their friends or other family members the things their kids tell them in confidence — avoid doing this! It can violate their trust, and your kids will start keeping secrets from you. Respect your kids’ feelings and privacy and be their trustworthy confidant!
6. You Ask Them About Their Day (And Not Tell Them Anything About Yours)
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Children are easily overwhelmed. They are dealing with several stressful situations daily and might be withdrawn sometimes. When you notice that your child is quiet (compared to normal), something might be bothering them. However, instead of asking them what’s wrong, share with them about your day. Tell them how work was, let them know how you managed to deal with something stressful. Your kid will listen to you and open up when they see you opening up to them. Engage in a conversation, and avoid making it an interrogation!
7. You Restrict Their Freedom And Do Not Allow Them To Be Independent
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There is a fine line between being protective and being over-protective. Parents who tend to restrict their children with everything and curb their freedom raise kids who do not know how to be independent. When your kids are showing signs of independence, do not clamp them down. Guide them and encourage them, so they learn to become independent and responsible. Respect your kids enough to know that they can handle freedom as they are growing up.
It’s never easy to raise kids. Because every kid is different, you can never have a set of rules to follow and ace parenting. You learn through mistakes and pick up on cues as you raise your child. Therefore, be mindful about how you treat your children. Upbringing plays a huge role in children’s personalities. Have you unintentionally pushed your kids away with the behaviors mentioned above? Comment below and let us know!
