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After reading dozens of articles, parenting books, maternal magazines, and advice from around the world, you might be confident enough to do parenting correctly. However, whatever your theoretical knowledge is like when it comes to parenting in reality while coping with daily challenges, most young parents might miss out on some of the most basic ones that these books or their neighbors are yet to mention ever to them.
Well, in this article, you’ll learn about some of the most basic mistakes a parent can make despite being aware of it or how it might harm their little ones. So read along to find out if you also unintentionally missed out on some of these.
1. False Promising Them
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It can get challenging to satisfy your kids’ luxurious and out-of-the-ordinary desires. So, parents take the shortcut by making false promises to their children and avoiding the situation. However, they don’t remember that their kids look up to them as their role models, which is where the situation gets a bit trickier. You might not want to take this route if you want your kids to understand the value of promises. Additionally, you can tell them why you won’t be able to fulfill their wish; this way, they might become more sensible in the long run.
2. Being Over-friendly
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It’s lovely if your kids like you and enjoy your company. However, your children depend more on you as a parent than a friend. Making challenging choices is part of good parenting. It involves correcting your children, setting limits, defining responsibilities, and maintaining restrictions. Even if you accomplish all of these activities correctly, your kids could still be dissatisfied, which can be upsetting. However, don’t be concerned; they won’t last very long. They’ll quickly understand that you’re preparing them for adulthood.
3. Over-appreciating Them
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“No one is smarter than you in your class” -If you tell your kids things like this too frequently, they could start to feel privileged and gradually turn spoiled. They might say to themselves, “I’m unique, so I should be able to succeed even if I don’t work too hard.” This way of thinking prepares kids for future suffering because nothing worthwhile in life is ever achieved easily. Encouragement of children is acceptable; watch out that they don’t grow to believe they are the best thing since bread. Learning life’s hard truths is also a vital lesson they should be aware of.
4. Over-protecting Them From Fever
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Colds are common in children. This is because a child’s body builds antibodies each time it defeats an infection. So even if a child only gets ill once every month, they often contract 6–12 viral diseases yearly. What matters is how quickly a kid heals (it should take 7-8 days) and whether there are any issues. So next time you find your kid falling ill or getting a fever, don’t hype it up if it’s not a chronic fever, as it’s only for their overall development.
5. Arguing With Them
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This is a typical parenting error and hints at heated arguments between parents and kids. This argument occurs when a parent becomes angry, yells, nags, repeats, and engages in a war of words. As a result of their ability to get a more significant response from you, when you argue with your child, they will receive negative attention as you start to fight back, usually by yelling. Naturally, a parent will begin to struggle with this because it unwittingly rewards terrible behavior, and fighting back won’t make it stop.
6. Not Letting Them Make The Wrong Choice
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Kids need to fail because it’s part of the system. If you don’t let your kids make mistakes, you’re teaching them everything should go according to plan. Avoiding errors creates an environment that leads people to believe that making mistakes or failing is terrible. Your refusal to allow your child to make blunders is a mistake. Many parents even go so far as to pay their children for misconduct. Children need to experience life’s bumps and bruises because they are essential learning opportunities. This is because life is like bumps in the road, and kids need to share them.
7. Not Apologizing To Them
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You won’t lose respect by saying you’re sorry. However, most parents can either overlook how crucial it is or think that they are giving them more authority by saying sorry to their kids. But understanding what a heartfelt apology feels like and witnessing how a proper apology is made are the best ways to learn how to apologize. It’s a crucial life skill to acquire, and our kids need to see us apologize to others directly so they can know how to do it themselves. Additionally, it teaches kids that expressing regret is not weak and that making errors is part of being human.
The most demanding job in the world is becoming a parent! So you are not alone if you have committed many parenting mistakes. However, you can work on correcting them to make your kids better people in the future. In the comments section below, let us know more common mistakes you made that came to the realization later in life.
