The One Reason Women Stop Making Love With Their Husbands & What You Can Do To Take Back Your Intimacy

The One Reason Women Stop Having Sex With Their Husbands & What You Can Do To Take Back Your Intimacy

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Have you ever watched that movie ‘Madagascar’? Do you remember how the four main characters don’t eat anything until the end of the movie? It is only during the climax that someone puts sushi in front of them that they realize how hungry they have been all this while. But, somehow, as a viewer, it always bothered me that they have not eaten anything. Maybe, it is the foodie in me. But, my mind always goes back to how they really need to eat something immediately.

I sort of feel something similar when a fellow woman mentions how she is barely intimate with her significant other. While she may have gone ahead and talked about a million other things, my mind would still find a way to be stuck on that topic. Even if her conversations revolve around other amazing things that are going on in her life, I would still be thinking – “No lovemaking, Danger, Danger”! So, I always find a way to bring the conversation back to this subject, mostly because I genuinely care. And, I truly want to help the other person out.

However, since this is a very sensitive topic, more often than not, my friends shrug it off. I think that happens for three reasons primarily. First and foremost, it is a personal matter. Secondly, as a woman, I don’t think we realize how big a deal it can be. And, last but not least, we have the fear of addressing that issue and making any changes when it comes to the area of physical intimacy.

The One Reason Women Stop Having Sex With Their Husbands & What You Can Do To Take Back Your Intimacy

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Most often, I suspect that it is a mix of all the aforementioned reasons. So, if you are a woman who is struggling with something similar, I would like it if you allow me to share my thoughts on this for a moment.

To start with, I want you to understand that I know that every marriage is unique, with its own share of highs and lows. But, in most cases, we don’t give in ourselves physically to our husband because we feel that quite a few of our needs have also been overlooked over the years.

Maybe, it is our partner’s actions that don’t make us feel cherished or treasured enough. It seems like he doesn’t care the way he used to earlier. Perhaps, he has not made enough efforts to pursue us or has been callous about the relationship. At times, it can even be because he has been outrightly mean to us. And, holding ourselves back in such a situation seems like a very natural thing to do.

The One Reason Women Stop Having Sex With Their Husbands & What You Can Do To Take Back Your Intimacy

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If you can relate to what I have mentioned above, worry not. I understand where you are coming from. But, if you have continued to read up until now, that also means that you are ready to make the change now and heal the relationship. This means that you are also not as happy about the distance that exists between you and your significant other.

And, I also hope that as you continue to read this, you will be filled with an unknown love and compassion for your husband. All over again! For most men, the way that they express their love and care for someone is through physical intimacy. It’s something very similar to how women feel the same due to open communications and conversations.

So, the way you feel totally shuts down if your significant other stops talking to you. They feel completely shut down too if the physical intimacy takes a hit. And, this may cause disintegration of the relationship as you begin to look outlets for the same elsewhere. This can only be called a lose-lose situation.

But, what is important at this time is to find a way to get that physical intimacy back again. And, the most simple (yet difficult) thing to do is to find a way to keep your ego aside and figure out a solution for it. Have an honest conversation. Express. As you give him what he wishes for with all his heart, you find a way to explain to him your desires. You may have to take the first step. But, this might help both of you understand each other better. And, feel the love and compassion for one another all over again.

We, at MomJunction, genuinely hope that this article proves to be helpful to you. Good luck, ladies!

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