6 Reasons You Hate Pregnancy

Alright. Pregnancy is no bed of roses. Nor does it give you glamorous moments as portrayed on popular media. The reality is pregnancy is anything far from the glories of a procreating goddess. You actually feel miserable with bouts of violent nausea, constipation and several other complications that might vary from woman to woman. So there is little that is worth cherishing until you can finally hold your baby in your arms.

What surprises me though is that women we know don’t tell us that pregnancy sucks! They congratulate us on imminent motherhood, which is fine, but they don’t tell us that journey towards it isn’t great. But we need to get there, and here’s what I would expect one to tell me in a way that it can help me against my dislike for pregnancy:

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1. You are not alone

You should know that you are not the only woman who feels haywire in pregnancy. The truth is several women don’t share their pregnancy detests because they think it is the social norm to appear all cheery about it.

2. It’s not an experience to be worshipped, but it is worth receiving care

Receiving care is all that matters when you don’t like the experience. The American Pregnancy Association says that at least 70-80% women suffer from Hyperemesis Gravidarum or severe morning sickness and only an estimated 20% women receive care to treat the condition through hospitalization. While most get over morning sickness after first trimester, some can’t escape until the 40th week! Care is all you need to make you feel better this time around.

3. You shouldn’t feel bad about being honest

Shaming yourself for not feeling great about yourself won’t do justice. It’s ok to express your ungratefulness for being honest about your experience. Be a real woman by being honest. In emulating other women who don’t want to talk about their experience, you are lying to yourself. After all uttering what feels right eases you and you drive home the point in telling the truth. Getting blatant? No problem! The idea is to let all know what being pregnant is really like.

4. Don’t need to glamorize pregnancy

Get over the glossy magazines or the starry pregnancy photoshoots. The props, the lights, the picturization don’t relieve you of the bizarre conundrums of pregnancy. The stunning pregnancy pictures are setting unrealistic standards for women on their journey towards motherhood. It is only leading to unhealthy and insane fantasies of how a woman must look or feel during pregnancy.

5. Womanhood should not be defined by motherhood

Procreating should largely be the choice of a woman than commanded by the society. If a woman does not enjoy pregnancy, she should neither be labelled bad, nor should her choice be called evil. A woman’s choices must not be dictated by whether someone else enjoys her being pregnant or loves the sight of her bump.

6. Being honest to yourself

Introspection is the key. You would know what is the best for you, just as much you alone would know what you would be going through. Stop being pretentious. Just be yourself. Not only would you be doing a favor to yourself by being honest unto you, but also you would be allowing people around you to come forward in a more candid manner. Also remember, by being truthful you would get rid of most of your stress.

So the next time you think about having a baby – either as a first-time mom or a subsequent one, judge for yourself instead of going by what people tell you. You are likely to win over the pregnancy blues.

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