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It’s natural to question your relationship from time to time. But if it’s been a long time since you felt happy in your relationship with your husband, it may be time to dig deeper. Some of us fear to address or acknowledge the issues in our marriage for several reasons. For one, if we start talking about it, it becomes all too real. There’s no going back from there. Everything is out in the open, and you’re left with two choices. Either work with your partner to make the marriage better or leave him. And the thought of the latter option might be too scary for many. But staying in a marriage that makes you miserable and lonely might not be the best way to go about it. If you think your marriage is in trouble, you might want to continue reading our post to know about the 6 signs that scream unhappy marriage.
1. You’ve Got Nothing To Say To Each Other
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Communication is an important part of any marriage. So, if your communication is limited to who will do the dishes or who will pick the kids up from their playdate, it’s a red flag. If your partner isn’t the first few people you wanna share any big news with, ask yourself why. If you live together and lead totally separate lives, there is definitely a lack of connection between the two of you that needs to be addressed.
2. You’ve Stopped Fighting
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If you’ve given up even arguing or fighting, it’s a sign that you are trying to ignore the situation. It’s normal for couples to fight. But instead of shutting down and refusing to talk about it, it’s important to end the conflict on amicable terms. Trying to understand the other person’s perspective and being open about your feelings will help bring a couple closer together. On the other hand, if you stop talking about it and put on an act like you don’t care, it will secretly lead to building up anger and resentment.
3. You Would Rather Spend Time Alone Than With Your Partner
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Alone-time can be fun and exciting. After all, a healthy marriage does not mean you have to spend every waking moment with each other. But if the presence of your partner makes you feel uncomfortable, wary, or inhibited, you’ve grown more distant with each other.
4. You Fantasize A Life Without Your Husband
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You start daydreaming about a life without your partner. This could be part of an emotional detachment process where you convince yourself that you don’t care and start to build a happier life in your fantasies. You start to think about how your life would be and feel excited about the things you could do, the vacations you would take, and how it would be to be a single parent.
5. You Stop Confiding In Each Other
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Do you see your partner as a source of support and comfort? If not, chances are you might have unresolved issues with your partner and you no longer see a friend in him. A marriage is a partnership where you enjoy the fun moments, share exciting and sad events of your life, and confide in each other. And if your relationship lacks all of these things, it might be time to stop treating your relationship as normal and find ways to fix it.
6. Your Partner Is Always Defensive
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If your partner is always defensive and refuses to take responsibility for his words and actions, then it might be hard to resolve any conflicts. Constantly criticizing each other and never acknowledging the mistakes and shortcomings will make it hard to work through the relationship.
If any of the above signs have hit home for you, know that you still have time to work on your relationship and build a stronger connection with your spouse. It’s best to sit down and have an open discussion with your partner and make sure that you hear each other out without judgment or criticism. Trying to figure out the underlying issues and taking responsibility for your actions by setting aside your ego is probably the first step toward making a relationship work.
