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As much as we’d like to think that married life is all bliss and rainbows, those who have entered this sacred union know that it takes more than hearts and flowers to go the distance. Marriage encompasses a spectrum of emotions, challenges, and milestones. Within this lifelong partnership, some years stand out as the happiest, filled with joy, love, and contentment. There are years that prove to be the most arduous, marked by tests and trials that demand unwavering commitment and resilience.
In this article, we will take you through the happiest and hardest years of marriage, delving into the experiences and lessons that shape a married life. Join us as we navigate these phases and gain insight into it. Want to know more? Read on!
1. 3 Years
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Some say love only lasts for three years, even in marriage. This idea comes from the belief that people tend to become less perfect over time, which can strain a relationship. However, in reality, after three years together, people often become more accepting of each other’s flaws and feel more comfortable.
During this time, many couples decide to have a baby, which adds excitement and busyness. Facing these new challenges together can make the bond between partners even stronger. So, the third year of marriage is often seen as one of the happiest times.
2. Year 5
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The first problems can start around the fifth year of family life. During this period your children are small and demand a lot of attention. You and your partner probably spend a large portion of your day in parent mode, leaving hardly any time for alone time or couple time. This can leave room for frustration, miscommunication and overall unhappiness. According to the study, the fifth year is known for being the most overwhelming and the hardest year of marriage. This is when many couples contemplate divorce and start calling up their lawyers.
3. 7 Years
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Reaching the five-year milestone in your marriage is a significant achievement – congratulations! However, a new challenge lies ahead in the form of the seventh year, often known as the “seven-year itch.” This year is all about overcoming obstacles and strengthening your partnership.
As you approach the seventh year, your family life settles into a routine, which presents its own set of challenges. Financial worries, childcare issues, and disagreements about household responsibilities may arise. It’s a period where you both need to embrace the responsibilities of adulthood, even if it’s not always fun or exciting.
This phase can be complex, requiring spouses to learn how to collaborate and work together to enhance their quality of life for themselves and their children. By working together, you’ll emerge as a resilient couple with a lasting bond, and the happiest years of your married life are still ahead.
Here Are Some Factors To Avoid If You Want To Keep Your Marriage Happy And Strong
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1. Silencing Problems
If you don’t rock the boat, it might rot from the inside out. Sometimes keeping quiet and brushing things under the carpet is the worst thing you can do for your relationship. Specialists have found out that even discussing a couple of movies based around relationships can reduce the risk of divorce by half (3). So talking properly about your family difficulties is the key to saving your marriage.
2. Lack Of Desire To Listen
As important as it is to talk, it is far more important to listen to the concerns of your partner. If you are in a fight, it is far more beneficial for you as a couple to take into consideration all the grievances that your partner has and listen to them sincerely instead of getting defensive and trying to win the fight. If one of the partners does not want to listen during a fight, then the risk of divorce is much higher (1).
3. Financial Issues
It’s no secret that financial issues can cause strain between partners. After all, managing money is important in order to have a secure future. If you and your spouse don’t see eye to eye on how to spend your money and constantly argue over finances, you are more likely to get a divorce even if your income is high.
Marriages may be made in heaven, but as we all live on earth they rarely ever stay there. Eventually reality sinks in and marital bliss fades away. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing though. Building a strong and real relationship can be even more satisfying than a fairytale. Don’t you agree? Let us know in the comments section!
