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This is not the first time a woman or a wife has complained about her partner or husband. But we do it because there are some things that husbands do not have to deal with, even though they are equally a part of the marriage and parenthood. My husband did not have to deal with critical in-laws because he did not live with them for the first few years of our marriage. His parents were overly critical of how I was; my lifestyle, cooking, how I kept the house, and even my driving skills. It made me so mad, but what could I do?
Over the years, I realized that it’s not just me who complains about the husband. Many women do it, and it stems from one simple fact that men do not understand the issues we face as women daily. It’s hard being a woman in a man’s world. There are specific roles expected of women, and quite honestly, it’s getting old and tiring to live up to them. But we do our best and only hope that the men in our lives understand what we go through.
When I was discussing these things with my best friend, my husband overheard. He was appalled. He said he never even thought of these things because of his privilege. My husband suggested that I make a list of things that husbands will never understand and put it out there for the world to see. It was a good idea, and I decided to do it. So here are 5 things my husband will never understand because he is not a woman:
1. The Struggle Of Over Planning
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that men do not plan anything. But as a woman, I have to do a rerun of my to-do list for the next day 8,789 times before going to sleep. Breakfast, homework, groceries, kids’ soccer game, dry cleaners, bills, and whatnot. But my husband’s biggest worry is if his favorite football team will win the next game. Maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but you get my drift.
2. The Power Of My Gals
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My husband will never know how much pressure my breasts feel, knowing that it’s the only thing that will calm my screaming baby. It’s my baby’s happy place and perhaps my husband’s too, but for very different reasons *wink wink*.
3. Producing Milk On A Timer
Another one about my girls because it’s a lot of work to have something so powerful and useful. My husband will never understand what it feels like to feed my baby or pump my breasts every two hours. I’ve got to time my trip to the grocery store perfectly to be back in time for the next feeding.
4. The Pressure Of Multitasking
How many times have we been told that we are good at multitasking simply because we are women? Guess what, dear husbands. We need a break too. I cannot emphasize the number of times my husband has pawned off some work on me because he has ONE thing to do while I’m juggling 25 things at once.
5. Clubbing Bathroom Breaks And “Me Time”
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I know this is universal because my friends tell me they struggle with it too. Raise your hands if your idea of alone time is when you go to the bathroom. Your hands went up because you’re a woman, more so if you’re a mom. Am I right, or am I right? The sad reality is that somehow, everyone needs me when I’m in the bathroom too! Can’t I get a few minutes to myself? *cries in secret*
Talking about these things might make me seem like a baby who has not embraced womanhood or motherhood. But the truth is, I have, and so have all the other women. But we just wish our husbands understood that it’s not easy, even if we make it look like a walk in the park. If you could relate to this article, share it with your women friends and laugh (cry) together!
