This Is How Good And Bad In-Laws Can Change Your Life

It is a common myth that your in-laws could be the parents you never asked for. This comes from all those horror stories we often hear about inlaws. The first thought on a newly married woman’s mind is ‘how am I going to deal with my husband’s parents.’ The relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law has been so done and dusted that the friction is accepted by a simple exclamation ‘this is the way it is supposed to be.’ Well, that is not the case every time. Though we hear (and remember) only the horror stories, there are the same number or more of happier ones too. Let’s look at the good and the bad of living with your in-laws

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The Good

1. A hot dinner/meal after a long day

This goes for all daughters-in-law, regardless of whether you are working or not. Sometimes all we want to do is relax and enjoy a cup of coffee or a hearty meal after a long day and the idea of cooking seems like a task. In such cases, a mother-in-law who cooks for you and your husband is a boon from heaven.

2. An in-house counsellor or friend

A good relationship with your in-law plays a largely positive role in one’s life. With the ability to spend quality time together, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can add value to each other’s life. Watching movies together, cooking, sharing secrets, being there for one another during turbulent times, nothing beats the joy of having a good mom-in-love!

3. They can babysit

You can’t always rely on a baby-sitter once you have a baby. That’s when good in-laws come to rescue like angels. From taking care of kids while you are at work to feeding them good home-made food, it all seems like a blessing.

4. You won’t be alone

This is especially reassuring if you get along with them and you live far away from your own home. Your in-laws will help you through the struggles of life making it less overwhelming, especially when you feel homesick.

The Bad

1. The constant criticism

Like the aunties and neighbors who offer unsolicited advice, so do the in-laws. They will pick on everything from the way you clean your house to what you’re wearing. Such in-laws are not just difficult to deal with; they also disturb your peace of mind.

2. The inability to be yourself

With your in-laws around, there’s a higher chance of being judged and gossiped about. They not just encroach on your privacy but also constantly judge and question you. Pretence can only go so far. If you are not yourself around your in-laws, life could be a tough battle.

3. They don’t like anything you do

Late night house parties? Forget about it! Shopping? No way. Calling friends over? Get ready to be judged. Basically, this type of in-laws are not happy about anything (and everything) you do. They have a problem with absolutely everything and honestly all you can do is ignore.

4. The bullies

They meddle with everything in your house and constantly try to change the way you live. And it’s not once or twice; it’s an ongoing annoyance. Barging into your lives and expecting you to live the way they like.

Whichever way you look at it, living with your in-laws has its pros and cons. Being open with your partner about things that bother you and trying to speak with your in-laws about your discomforts is the only way to co-live peacefully. Turning bad in-laws into good ones isn’t a child’s play, but then, as they say, there’s no harm trying.

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