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Every parent wants their children to be their friends and wants their children to share details of their life, goals, and unexplainable problems. However, specific topics can be tricky and sensitive when talking with your parents. And it happens because of the generational gap at most times. While these topics may seem unavoidable, it is essential to remember that discussing them could easily backfire if mishandled.
Here are 9 topics that should be avoided when speaking with your parents if you don’t want the conversation to go awry:
1. Your Feelings
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Although your feelings and mental health are sensitive topics and parents should be aware of them, sometimes they might not instantly understand their severity. And your struggle to convince your parents about the problems you are going through can end up with them saying to sleep early and get rid of your phone. So, it’s better to reach out to a psychologist or therapist instead of your parents if you don’t want them to worry more about you.
2. Your Marriage
If you are going through a rough patch in your relationship and want your parents to know about it, you should, without hesitation, contact them. They will surely guide you and protect you from worst-case scenarios like domestic violence. However, this approach can backfire as well. You might make a slight misunderstanding with your partner look like a great deal in front of your parents and regret it later when they don’t understand your situation.
3. Your Lifestyle
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You spend a lot of years living under the same roof with your parents, following their guidelines and ways of living your life. But your lifestyle changes drastically when you move out to make a living. As a result, you might develop unhealthy habits, and discussing those habits with your parents is an unwise decision you should avoid.
4. Your Relatives
Dealing with your relatives is not an easy task to do. With them making constant sarcastic comments and comparisons to you, sometimes it’s hard to hold on to those frustrating emotions, and you might end up backlashing on them. So you need to develop some diplomatic skills to survive in families with many members.
5. Your Parenting Style
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Being a parent from two generations apart under the same roof can cause havoc. Different parenting styles and thought processes might need to get along better. The boon of having a hand to handle the baby might be a bane without delay. Avoiding suggestions and criticism is the best way to minimize this conflict.
6. Your Future Plans
Telling your parents about your wish to change a job or opt for a hobby might only end well sometimes. Yes, your parents always want the best for you, but they won’t get convinced so easily. And the amount of time and energy you’ll spend to assure them about your plan will not result in a healthy conversation and will leave both parties anxious and disappointed. So, getting the good news first and delivering it to your parents later is advisable.
7. Your Finances
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You just received your first pay cheque and purchased that dress you always wanted. But your parents, instead of congratulating or complimenting you, start lecturing you on maintaining an ideal financial situation. Of course, that situation would be frustrating with so many disagreeing comments passing from one end to the other. But worry not. As long as you are self-sufficient and financially independent, you shouldn’t take criticism seriously and instead feel proud of yourself.
8. Commenting On Their Parenting
Everybody makes mistakes, and some things your parents did when you were children likely affected you. The effects of childhood trauma can linger and significantly affect your life. However, you don’t need to tell your parents that. You don’t want to make them or yourself go through that or the sorrow of realizing they hurt you again. Instead, congratulate them and tell them how much you value their accomplishments.
9. Neglecting Their Advice
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Remember when your parents told you not to get that tattoo, but you still got it? And later, when you told them, they were even more furious and neglected to advise you further. Well, you don’t need to do that. However, whatever advice your parents advise you, you should always keep it in mind, and even if you go against it, you should also think about your parents’ sentiments.
It’s hard for everyone to match their parents’ expectations in every situation, but if you want, you can be wise and mature to handle these situations calmly and ideally. These were the most common topics where an easy-going conversation might even turn your house into a fish market. If you have any more topics or situations you should avoid your parents indulging in, let us know in the comments section below. Happy parenting to you all!!!
