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Raising kids is one of the hardest jobs anyone can have. You want your kids to be empathetic, smart and successful. But first you need to get them through several phases of childhood as they develop rapidly. And although kids are inclined to be cranky and hard to deal with at times, there comes a time when you just can’t make any more excuses for their behavior anymore. You can’t stop your child from having their own experiences and forming their own opinions and biases as they grow older, but there are some behaviors that you need to nip in the bud if your child exhibits them. If you’d like to know what these behaviors are, then this is the article for you. Here are a few types of child behavior that you simply should not ignore!
1. Your Child Being Disrespectful To Others
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It doesn’t matter if it’s to someone older than them, younger than them or a peer, every human being deserves to be treated with respect, and your child needs to understand that. Unfortunately, disrespectful behavior is something that most parents encounter at some point or another. It may show up during the terrible twos or when your child hits puberty. But irrespective of when it happens, this is something you need to address and resolve then and there. First, you need to understand why your child is exhibiting this behavior. Once you know the reason and find out their triggers, you can teach them how to be calm and resolve disputes respectfully.
2. Your Kids Lying To You
This is another behavior that is bound to occur sooner rather than later. But your kids need to learn that lying is dishonorable and not the way to get something they want. Kids will try to push your limits and see how much they can get away with from time to time. It’s your job as a parent to be discerning and calming teach them the importance of being honest and establishing trust in order to have healthy relationships.
3. Whining For Attention
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You may find this behavior irritating but sometimes, toddlers can’t help themselves from whining for your attention. At this stage, all they want is for you to acknowledge every little thing they do, and they’ll do anything to get you to notice them. The only way to stop them from whining is to not give into this behavior. You can tell your kids that they are far more likely to get your attention or whatever it is that they want if they learn to speak to you using their normal voice. Teach them that you value them being articulate and patient instead of giving into them whenever they constantly hound you for something or the other. Sure this is easier said than done, but this is one behavior that you need to get rid of as not everyone will act favorably towards your child if they whine whenever met with an inconvenience or hurdle.
4. Ignoring The Situation When Others Do Something Wrong
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This is a tricky thing to teach your kids. On one hand you want to teach your little one’s to respect the privacy of others, but on the other hand, you must teach them to stand up to bullies or people doing something wrong even when it doesn’t directly involve them. You need to teach them to defend people who are not in the position to stand up for themselves. So, the next time they see a kid being bullied at school, they can bring it up to a teacher and confront the bully instead of standing aside.
5. Violent Or Aggressive Behavior
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This is an absolute no-no. Every human being has to deal with negative emotions like anger, frustration and even resentment, but being violent towards one another is never the answer to your problems. And that’s exactly what you need to teach your child. Aggression is a learned behavior so it’s important to understand where they picked up this trait and from whom. When your child exhibits this behavior, remain calm, help them go to a quiet environment and then explain why it’s wrong and how they can express their emotions in more socially acceptable ways that are not harmful towards others or themselves.
Helping your child navigate through life can be tricky, especially when they start to behave in ways that confound you. But this is a natural step for them growing up. What matters most is that you are there to guide them and help them through these difficult phases so that they can straighten out their behavior and lead happy lives.
