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Every relationship goes through a testing phase. And, it is certainly not easy for any couple to endure it. Pregnancy is one such phase. The lack of intimacy aside, things like time constraints, hormonal upheavals, and frayed nerves can wreak havoc even in an otherwise normal relationship. However, the silver lining is that this is just a passing phase and things soon settle down. And, by keeping alive that spark in your relationship, both of you can sail through even this phase. Here are a few things you can do during pregnancy to keep that spark lit in your relationship:
1. Discuss Stuff Other Than Pregnancy
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One of the immediate changes soon after pregnancy is how the subject will always creep into your conversations. Unknowingly, both of you will end up discussing it quite often. While it may be good to discuss your fears and apprehensions with each other, it is important to focus on other necessary stuff as well. Try and keep space for some idle or humorous talk as well. It’ll help take off some of the pressures that come with pregnancy and make both of you look forward to hanging out with each other often.
2. Plan A Date
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With each passing phase, a pregnant woman might increasingly prefer to stay at home and relax. This is due to the exhaustion she experiences every now and then. But it is a good idea to go on a date with your spouse once in a while. Remember, once the baby comes, you both might have to forget about having quiet dinner dates or outings for a long time to come. Make the most of this time on hand. Plan something fun and romantic for each other. You’ll soon realize that these dates would have become one of your happiest memories in the future.
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Most couples would like to believe that they completely understand each other. This very understanding comes into the picture when a wife requires her husband to pitch in while doing household chores. With her energy levels dipping, she’ll be more than happy when her partner helps her with the dishes or laundry. Both of you can also fuse kitchen time (cooking, cleaning) with some fun banter to make it more interesting.
4. Don’t Be Afraid To Make Love
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Most couples stop making love the moment pregnancy is confirmed. The fear and caution are understandable, especially in case of previous miscarriages. However, it is completely safe to make love, even in the second trimester. And no, it doesn’t hurt the baby. Have a thorough discussion with the doctor before you go ahead. This way you can approach it with a relaxed mind.
5. And Don’t Be Scared Of Abstinence Either
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Yes, you might be required to abstain for a while. But don’t stress about it. To begin with, as mentioned earlier, it need not be for the whole nine months! You might probably want to change a few positions to help your wife find a comfortable position. Also, lovemaking need not always be about coitus. There are various ways of getting intimate. Cuddling, massaging, touching, etc., are some of the ways to get close to your partner in intimate ways!
6. Manage Your Nerves
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Apart from pregnancy, there will definitely be other stressors in life like work, household responsibilities etc. And in this situation, it is possible that either or both of you might end up snapping. While it may not be easy to get a hold of your situation all the time, try to be patient as much as possible. If your wife tends to let go, wisdom suggests that you hold the fort until she relaxes. You can later discuss dealing with similar situations in future once the steam runs out.
Pregnancy is just one part of your life. It is a passing phase with a beautiful end result. But all this does come with its own highs and lows. However, let us assure you that if you incorporate some of these suggestions, it’ll help in strengthening your bond further. So, both of you can welcome a new addition to your family with a bunch of happy memories! Happy bonding!
