Infatuation Vs. Love: 30 Common Differences To Get Clarity

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People often confuse love with infatuation. Both the expressions may seem similar, but they are two different feelings. If you want to know the difference between love and infatuation, reading this post will help. People often mistake infatuation for love and rush into a relationship. However, the infatuation is short-lived and fades over time, and you end up being disappointed with the other person as well as the relationship. This post discusses what love and infatuation are and how to differentiate between them to give you clarity.

What Is Infatuation?

Infatuation is the feeling of growing attracted to someone through a sensation of unreasoned passion. The feelings experienced by the infatuated person are strong, bold, and often lustful. Infatuation is also said to be the beginning stage of a relationship, that is, before it develops into mature intimacy.

Infatuation could depend on several factors, such as the perception of someone and the current situation. The stage of infatuation is characterized by the infatuated person’s inability to recognise and acknowledge the flaws, weaknesses and imperfections of the other person. They focus selectively on the other person’s looks, achievements and best qualities. Overall, infatuation tends to be temporary and does not have the emotional intensity of love. It’s based on idealizing the other person based on one’s own set of beliefs and perspective and not on how the person truly is, warts and

What Is Love?

Love consists of strong feelings of affection and attachment. It makes someone care for another person, help them,resolve problems, and express positive emotions.Love is a more complex emotion than infatuation and has several contextual forms. For instance, the love between a mother and child is different from the love between a couple.

The emotion usually has several positive effects and may improve the overall well-being of both the person being loved and the one in love. Love is a deeply positive and reinforcing feeling. True love opens the doors to authenticity and honesty. Instead of a fantasy relationship, you have a stable bond of mutual respect, compatibility and shared values. On the flip side, a person is more emotionally invested in love than infatuation. Thus, any shortfall or complication that affects love may cause negative effects, such as heartbreak.

30 Differences Between Love And Infatuation

1Occurs instantlyDevelops slowly
2Desire for physical intimacyFocus on a deeper connection
3Makes mind sillyand irrationalCalms minds and emotions
4Highly intense, but ends soonRemains comfortable and lasts longer
5Reckless with emotionsConsiderate and empathetic
6Hidden motivesGenuine intentions
7Brings obsession and jealousyDevelops understanding and trust
9Impulsive and drainingKind and energizing
10Makes a big deal out of small thingsLove forgives
11Ideas related to fantasyGenuine efforts to have a serious relationship
13Holds grudgesAllows things to move on
14Keeps guessing the feelingsAnswers all questions in heart
15Thrives on playing gamesExists on meaningful connections
16Tumultuous and conditionalSerene and unconditional
17DelusionalLove is real
18Changes with timeTimeless
19Unrealistic expectationsRealistic standards
21Grows with desireGrows with friendship and mutual trust
22Stems from selfishnessStems from selflessness
23Makes you revengefulMakes you peace-loving
24Lose sense of life’s directionHelps set the right course of life
25Leave unannouncedProvides explanations
26Never content with same personMonogamous
29Self-destructiveHeals you
30Obsession with perfectionEmbraces all imperfections

Love and infatuation may happen at first sight, but both differ from each other. You can use the table above to analyze if your feelings for someone are based on love or infatuation. If you feel a sense of love, then it is best to focus on forging a long-term relationship. Take things slow, and you will develop a deeper connection and a stronger bond with the significant person in your life.

Key Pointers

  • Infatuation is usually transitory and lacks the emotional power of love.
  • Love is a more complicated feeling than infatuation and has different forms.
  • Infatuation makes you possessive and jealous, whereas love makes you generous and forgiving
  • Many more interesting differences between love and infatuation as you scroll down.

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