13 Tips To Understand Your Child's Psychology Better

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  • Bri

    This is very good advice….I am going to point out it’s self esteem not elf esteem might want to correct that. But great job!

  • gud one…thanku

  • Great post!
    Another strategy I’ve found quite helpful, when children maybe aren’t willing to talk so much about what’s bothering them, or how they like school, or respond to any request for information about their day, is to give them a pile of paper and some pens.
    Ask them to draw something they love. Or draw something they think is hard. To draw what they like about school, or to draw what they don’t like.

    You can even ask them to draw something they wish they could tell you…

    Not all children are ‘talkers’. Find ways to give them space and opportunity to communicate without defining communication only in the way that comes most natural for you.

    – Ask them to sing a song about their school day.
    – Dance about how they feel.
    – Punch a pillow with all their feelings or make a sandwich with them all :-)

    …They might sound like silly suggestions but you’d be amazed what can come out of them! When your child rips the bread to shreds you can be quite sure they’re bottling up a lot of feelings, when they swish and swirl around the room, either they’re just loving the opportunity to do it and totally caught up in the moment, or they don’t have a care in the world.

  • Niharika

    Dear Sudha, examination times are testing times for both parents and children. Today, the pressure on children to perform and achieve is tremendous. There can be few reasons as to why does a child goes blank during exams:
    1. Test anxiety – Children become so nervous about the test that when faced with a blank answer sheet, their minds go blank, even if they are well prepared. Some researchers give a physiological explanation for test anxiety. According to them, when a child prepares for a test, the information is stored in the short-term memory. The area of the brain that controls short term memory is also the centre for emotion. Thus, when a child becomes anxious during a test, the emotional upheaval overrides the child’s ability to retrieve the information from the short-term memory.
    2. Studying the wrong way- Sometimes a child may have used a wrong technique to prepare for a test. For example, a child revises for a spelling test by spelling the words out orally, but when faced with the blank lined sheet of paper, he cannot seem to get the spellings right. In such a case, it may be a good idea for parents to give him a mock written spelling test at home the night before.
    3. Too much pressure – Sometimes parents should try not to lay too much stress on the importance of doing well in the test. Try to make your child look at tests from another point of view, as a method for teachers to assess whether their teaching is effective.Reassure them that you’re sure that they’ll do better next time.
    4. Lack of confidence – There are many children who revise the material again and again because they are convinced they don’t know it well enough. Even though they are so well prepared. This happens because when they see even a couple of questions to which the answer doesn’t immediately come to mind, they are convinced that they know nothing and accept defeat without even trying to recall the information.
    Try to talk to your child about these points and do not hesitate to seek medical help if none of these help you out.

  • Niharika

    Hi Raja, some kids might take time to develop patience and learn social skills. Be gentle to your child and let her take time to learn and develop good manners. Guide them and at the same time give some space to your child. Involve them in activities and let the child learn by observing everybody around her. Behavior of family will help to instill good manners in a child.