Wife And Husband Relationship During Pregnancy: This Is What You Need To Know

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The woes of pregnancy and an expecting baby have the potential to change the relationship dynamics that you share with your partner. The changes in your body, the noticeable curves, a protruding belly, and raging hormones in the body have the scope to throw you off balance when it comes to nurturing the relationship with your partner. At one moment you may feel incredibly connected to your partner and in another moment, you may get the feeling that your husband might be distant during pregnancy and emotional. Also, if your husband is not meeting your expectations in support and sensitivity, it could be a reason of strife between the two of you, leading to arguments. Read on to know how you can avoid such unpleasant situations.

Tips To Maintain Healthy Relationship Between Husband And Wife During Pregnancy:

There are ways you can nurture your relationship even during pregnancy days when your body and mind are going through various changes. You two can put some efforts in keeping the romance and the spark alive and be there for each other. Some of the ideas that can work to your advantage in such a situation are:

1. Modify Your Routines:

Rather than being hell bent on what you used to do together and fighting because it is not the same anymore now, try to be flexible and modify routines to suit the needs. Instead of going out for activities such as golfing or other sports activity, which you previously loved to do, but now you find it difficult to enjoy; you can do things such as going for a spa session together and opt for a couple of massages that is relaxing and romantic at the same time.  Choose activities or things that you two enjoy doing together and will keep you two connected.

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2. Have Some Conversation Time:

For any relationship to work perfectly, you need to communicate with your partner. During pregnancy, the concentration on aspects such as doctor’s appointment, food, supplements, care, and attention can leave you two with no time to sit and talk. Set aside some time for you two to share your thoughts, the happenings in your day, some light humor or anything that is of common interest to you both. This will have a positive effect on your relationship and help in each of your individual growth too.

3. Be Focused On Your Partner:

It often happens that the expecting mother ends up paying more attention to the baby growing inside of her than on her husband. Give time to your partner and honor the relationship that you share. In this way, he will not end up feeling insecure about his importance and also not assume that the baby will change your relationship with him.

4. Keep The Intimacy Alive:

Physical relations during pregnancy can be a tricky thing to figure out for most couples. In the first few months, you will be so concerned about morning sickness, exhaustion, and mood swings that sex will be the last thing on your mind. As the months advance, and the bump shows prominently, finding the right positions to have sex will make it hard for you two to carry out intercourse the way you did before. In such situations, you can talk it out with your partner on how things can work out best for you both. Moments such as unexpected vomiting, farting or anything gross should be taken lightly, giving you two some excuses to laugh together and spark up the romance.

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Ways In Which Pregnancy Can Change The Relationship Dynamics:

Pregnancy is a nine-month long process which might bring changes in the relationship you share with your partner. Awareness of the possibilities of change will keep you prepared for how to tackle the change and work things out accordingly to keep the relationship going without any trouble in your haven. Some pointers that you can look for help are:

  • You will be more dependent on your partner for things which you previously could manage by yourself earlier. Situations such as doctor’s appointments, a couple of yoga sessions and counseling hours will make it necessary that you feel the need for your partner more during these few months. This might make you feel that your husband is not giving you your due.
  • Lack of sex and intimacy can take a toll on husband and wife relationship during pregnancy. The infrequent sex sessions can leave a profound effect on the chemistry that you two share.

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Common and Expected Couple Fights During Pregnancy:

Even if you shared a world of bliss with your partner, pregnancy could bring that chemistry, both physically and emotionally, to a standstill. You may end up fighting everyday for no reason.

The frequent mood swings, the lack of communication and the absence of the understanding for each other that you once shared can result in every day bickering and fights with your partner, making you doubt the very relationship. Here are a few reasons that might lead to a fight with your husband and some expert tips on how to deal with the situation and salvage your relationship:

1. Naming The Child:

The Problem: The decision of naming your baby can be very tricky, and it has the possibility of ending up in a heated debate. Your partner may not agree with your idea of naming the baby after your grandmother or giving him some rare and unique name, as your partner has already taken out the top ten lists of baby names, and you two end up having a huge argument about it.

The Solution: You do not have to push him or make him change his decision immediately. In this way, you both will end up being defensive. Take some time out, sit together later and talk about the issue. You can share your experience and the attachment that you have for the names that you have selected individually and then see how he reacts. The discussion can give you both a deeper understanding of each other’s point of view and help in making a joint decision.

2. Lack Of Attention:

The Problem: During pregnancy, you can become vulnerable and completely insecure about your partner. At times, you may feel he is not giving you the attention you deserve or the care that is required. Minor issues such as missing appointments with your OB by him can create turmoil between you two for no reason at all.

The Solution: Rather than burdening your partner all the time for keeping up with your appointment, you can make some friends who are also pregnant and discuss all your pregnancy-related issues such as swollen feet, morning sickness, etc., with them. You can go with them for your medical appointments and routine checkups rather than piling everything on your partner. It becomes easy for both of you to share some good time together if there is no task or responsibility that you two have to accomplish every two days.

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3. Sex:

The Problem: In his mind, all he can think is how gorgeous you have turned with your newly acquired curves and the pregnancy glow. It is quite obvious he will try to be cosier with you at times. But during this period of gestation, all you can think of is the leaking of your pee or some other pregnancy related problem and your partner might not be sympathetic towards your condition. The result is that you end up having a huge fight again.

The Solution: Having some sense of humour about the situation can work towards your advantage at this time. Laughing about the silly or gross things, joking about the issues can lighten the situation up and you two can share some sweet and cosy moments together. Communication is the key to resolving the issue. Talk to your partner about your insecurities and fears about sex.

4. Money Matters:

The Problem: The prospect of a baby increases the expenses to a great extent. The sudden change in the expenditure can shock you both, making it difficult to manage finances and make monetary decisions. These uncertainties and lack of proper financial management can lead to stress and disagreements among couples when they are expecting a baby.

The Solution:You two can sit down together to plan a budget and try in all ways to stick to it even when faced with temptations. Do not wait for the baby to arrive to sort out the financial issues, do it right away. Figure out all the possible expenses and develop a budget that is practical, can be followed and not too stringent. Keep some extra cash ready for emergencies, unforeseen, or unaccounted for necessary expenditures.

5. Interference From Family:

The Problem:You may have great rapport with your in-laws and the extended family after marriage but pregnancy could change the relationship. It could be the same for your husband if your parents are interfering too much in your affairs.

The Solution: It is essential to understand that you and your partner are going to be parents, so the decisions need to be made/decided by you two. Support from your families is necessary and you can always welcome their advice, as long as they are not hurting your psyche or the relationship with your husband. There is no reason for you to be rude to them. Talk to your partner if you think the interference has gone too far to tolerate.

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Fighting And Arguing With Your Spouse Harms The Baby:

Arguments with your partner during pregnancy are quite common among couples. The change in the hormone levels and the added pressures of pregnancy can make you a bit edgy and result in silly fights and confrontations. But if the fights are too severe and frequent, then it may indicate an underlying problem of depression or anxiety disorder in the mother. The added stress caused by the conflicts can put both the mother and the baby under a lot of stress and potential harm.

Depression or anxiety caused by stress for extended periods of time can affect the gestation period and may lead to pre-term labor in several cases. The sudden mood swings and constant irritation can also hamper the absorption of nutrients in the body of the mother and the baby leading to further complications and poor health of the baby.

Excessive stress levels can also result in high blood pressure, hormonal imbalance in the body and miscarriage. Elevated levels of anxiety can lead to events of postpartum depression which is detrimental to the health of the mother and the well-being of the child at the same time.

How did you deal with your relationships during pregnancy? You may share your suggestions and information in the comments section. We would love to know more from you.

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Sanjana did her graduation in Pharmacy and post graduation in management. It was during her first job, she recognized her skills in writing and began working as a freelance writer. Later, she completely moved into content writing and began working as a full-time content writer.Sanjana's articles in MomJunction cover topics related to new parenting and relationships. A fitness enthusiast herself, she also writes on exercises and physical fitness.  When not writing, she likes to spend her time cooking, doing calligraphy or reading a good book.
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